This is how you can rephrase today a famous statement about freedom. After all, success is often associated with professional life, it is also a stepping stone to freedom - internal and external. How to make it so that working time, which is a third of our lives, does not seem boring or lost to us? How to "ignite" success, so that this sphere of life shines?
WHY DO ALL WORK?
Strange statement of the question - you say. After all, the answer is almost all give the same. Work - the source of existence, self-realization and, ideally, the opportunity to live interesting lives. It turns out that the external, sounded set of our career aspirations for all people is roughly the same, but here's the root cause or, as psychologists say, the motivators of the goals are radically different.
And since the pledge of any undertaking (in this case a successful career) is the correct formulation of the problem, let us dwell on these motivators dissolved in the daily routine in more detail. In the end, they dictate the true goals of our behavior in all life situations, without exception. And (like all talented secret agents) act unobtrusively and secretly, often hiding in our subconscious. Therefore, the first step to success in life is the recognition that goals are ...
Conscious and unconscious
We are the first to manage, of course, ourselves. The second, as you already guessed, control us. Take, for example, the well-known hypnotic experiments, when people in a state of trance were told that a muscle would be injected, then they touched only with the palm of their hand. Meanwhile, the skin showed a distinct trace from the needle. That is, your consciousness may not believe in a syringe, but the subconscious takes everything that whispered to him, at face value. Of course, you may object that you are not hypnotized at all. Well, then, your subconscious is only hidden deeper, more cunningly lurking. And, as you know, it can very successfully manipulate the true motives of your behavior, including sorting your working goals in the order in which it is preferable.
Imagine, for example, this situation: you are enrolled in Spanish courses, which are extremely necessary for advancement in work. But to go there after a hard day, through the whole city, on traffic jams, in the cold and rain, somehow quite unhappy. Much more pleasant than thoughts of warm socks, a soft armchair and a three-story sandwich. Consciousness cries about the need to open the umbrella and still jerk for enlightenment; The subconscious, which we often call simply laziness, draws to sweets and plaid. Unfortunately, it is difficult to negotiate with the subconscious as with a friend, it usually lives according to the laws of a small uncontrollable child. It is better to say this "invisible opponent" like this: "Help me get to the courses (write a quarterly report, hold a serious conversation with the client) - a chocolate ladies (I'll buy a dress, I will drink a cocktail with my favorite ones)." But just like the subconscious can win this rainy day a round of consciousness, when you, fully aware of the victory of the first over the second, dutifully go home, it is able to confuse you and on the scale of more serious career goals. This means one very important thing: perhaps the goal (for all its temptation) is wrong. That is, very often we say and realize one thing, while we feel and mean something completely different. Determining your true desires is already half the success. However, we will return to this later. In the meantime, let's talk about other goals. Namely…
Personal and socially-oriented
Imagine that you suddenly plan to give up your rather well developing career in your home office and do what you have long been dreaming of, for example, instructing diving on the Red Sea. Or the art of Feng Shui. Or the opening of a small bakery, but whether it is not interesting enough in addition to your work (ideal in the eyes of your surroundings, but you are very old for a long time). And now you tell me about your decision to mom and girlfriends, and in return you get a mournful-meaningful silence or assurances that the new venture is nothing more than a whim that can push you from a stable life pedestal and let it go around the world. As counter-arguments, you can roll out a whole battery of "fair" arguments, especially if in the family you are also responsible for someone else. Suppose, it is you who will show miracles of self-control and you will not refuse from the planned plan for the reconstruction of life. However, many, alas, not having received support from the outside, a kind of "social stroking", and will freeze in place. Precisely because the subconscious mind, frightened, "presses the tail," and the brave and resolute consciousness fails to push it from the spot. Thus, as you can see, our goals are both personal and socially-oriented, that is, corresponding to the expectations of the majority in your environment. And the latter, despite the example given, do not bear a negative connotation at all. A profession can be socially oriented, the nuances of which are such that it requires constant confirmation or refutation of your talents and achievements already on the scale of the whole society, and not just close ones and colleagues. This is the majority of public professions - theater and cinema, journalism, politics.
Well, now it's time to drop to the ground to talk about such a common and irreplaceable substance as money. And so our goals are clearly divided into ...
Material and non-material
Recognize: the reality is that we all ended up in a bright carnival of the consumer society. Fortunately, the right to decide what place to take on - actively marching in the most expensive costume party or an indifferent looking outside observer - no one you did not take away.
In other words, there are among us those who need the shining material side of life. Where money turns into the necessary condition of mental recovery or inner balance, or gaining a sense of security. For others, instead of monetary units, absolutely different equivalents work, say, confirmation in the eyes of their talent, mind or sacrifice surrounding them, the possibility of creative self-realization.
PLAYING TO THE LIE DETECTOR
Of course, if you read at leisure special literature on psychology, then the goals will be found much more. However, many of them are of little use in building a career, and therefore we will stop for the time being on the above. Now let's get down to business. All you need is a blank piece of paper, imagination and ultimate honesty with your inner self. So, divide the sheet into three columns. In the far left, write down all the goals that you are pursuing, looking for work, or outline the perspectives that you would like to achieve at a given place. And fix them exactly as you usually say: "I want a more interesting position, an increase in salary, an additional bonus for the New Year, business trips to our company's branch in Paris or on the island of Borneo."
For the middle column, the task is more difficult. Then try to formulate your true feelings about work. Yes, this task, apparently, is not for five minutes. It is likely that this issue will gradually begin to unwind in your head, offering different combinations - your task is to reflect all this on paper. The main thing that you were extremely sincere with yourself. Of course, sometimes it is not easy to admit that, what you do, you are mainly interested in money. Or that you want to wipe the nose of your ex-boyfriend, presenting him in the image of a successful business woman in every way. Or - to wrest a place that a colleague of M., hated by you for many reasons, claims, and then to throw a small party on this occasion and M., of course, to invite. It's clear, to sound such things even to yourself, beloved, somehow embarrassing. But, believe me, it's much better than wandering in the darkness of some confused life-beacons, then suddenly admit that you did not do it at all and went wrong.
In the third column, try to determine which of each three groups fit your goal. And, as we have already said, the main thing is to be as honest as possible with yourself. In fact, it turns out that honesty in life, as a rule, is the most winning and, in the long run, comfortable position. Recognition of your true goal is the most important moment for you. For example, if you begin to realize that your true desire really is not to take place, but only to prove something by the side of the person, then it is worthwhile to think again - is not it too an exorbitant sacrifice brought to the altar of vanity. Is not it time to bury the hatchet of the war, "let go" offense and do what really pleases you. So the purpose of this small and not always painless experiment is to understand which target priorities you would like to adhere to. Which of them concern you - not parents, friends, husband, society, namely you and only you are made happy.
DRAW A TARGET
Having decided on the priorities, it is also important to remember that the correct goal should have several characteristics. She must be:
1. Achievable
It is almost impossible to become a supermodel with frankly inconsistent parameters (although here there may be rare exceptions, say, clothes for full). That is why your talent in this field matters. Suppose you want to earn as much as possible. The ideal area for this is banking and financial business. But if you do not have the inclination to do this, then on one material motivation you will not go far. Perhaps you will be more effective in the field of real estate services - not formally the most profitable. It is also important to soberly assess your health and the supply of mental forces for the work that you would ideally like to do.
2. Defined in time
It's pointless to expect that your career history will magically change in a couple of weeks. Let's put it this way: the optimal term for finding work for young job seekers combining work and study is one year. The work in this case should be considered as a launching pad for gaining experience and not too scattered offers. If you graduated from education and are looking for something promising or just decided to "sublimate" to a career, then business consulting experts advise you to write a business plan for yourself for the next three years. And be guided by these terms.
3. Thrilling
What in the language of all-knowing consulting means - motivating for success. So you need to go back to your original list, reread it, and identify the incentives that drive you the most. Even if the "pluses" are childish-sounding mottos, like "vacation on the islands of Polynesia" - it does not matter. Hang this leaf in a prominent place as a conspiracy for luck, attributing the statement of Professor Stanford University Michael Ray: "The three main principles of a successful career: ease, ease and pleasure from work." However, this wonderful advice can be applied to all spheres of life without exception, do not you think?