But most of these similar impulses of passion are extinguished as suddenly, as well as flares up. Casual lovers exchange awkward smiles, and then leave without even exchanging phone numbers.
Why is this happening? Why, from the bright spark of interest, sympathy (and it certainly was), it did not turn out that it was not even a flame, even a weak flame? The reasons can be several, we will consider the most widespread. So, passion, sex for one night and ten reasons.
1. Wild passion and sex for sex
In most cases, the partners are not initially set up to continue the relationship. Sex for one night - it's not even an affair, so, a way to slightly diversify the usual course of life. More often such arguments operate with men who do not wish to be bound by a serious relationship. They are frightened by the word "romance", more precisely responsibility, which is behind a long love affair.
Non-binding meetings suit them much more than some women. Mostly those who have a career and a secular life in the foreground. On the relations of the ladies simply do not have time, but needs to be satisfied.
Sex for sex - a fairly common phenomenon. Often occasional lovers waiting at home for regular partners.
2. Dissatisfaction
Unpleasant, but it happens and such. Pleasure, for which everything was actually started - was not received. In memoirs there were only: a pleasant conversation, the charm of a partner's smile, a stormy start of a love foreplay and a dull or too fast finale. In a word - a misunderstanding. So you want to dramatically declare: - "Farewell, our meeting was a mistake! "And proudly retire. But in a civilized society it is customary to part intelligently. A partner might not even suspect that he did not live up to your expectations. Do not disappoint him in his own irresistibility. It is possible that you simply did not approach each other, and with another partner, it will all turn out much more successfully. Physical incompatibility is not uncommon.
In such cases, it's better to leave on a reassuring note: take a phone number and promise to call back, with a sweet smile to disappear behind the door.
3. Friends-lovers
Well, who said that friendship between a man and a woman is impossible? In this world, nothing is impossible. Yes, a man and a woman may well maintain long-term friendships, which do not always lead to physical intimacy. Long friendship is almost like a blood relationship. You see in a man a brother or sister and no emotional, the more hormonal bursts when communicating with him you do not feel. Therefore, friends become lovers not often. As a rule, this happens in a state of intoxication, when reality is seen by both through the prism of iridescent illusions. Another common option is the consolation of a frustrated partner. After all, to support a friend is a natural impulse, and men can calm women only in one way.
4. Sex at night and alcohol
A familiar combination. For many, sex and alcohol are synonyms, concepts that mean roughly the same thing. Modern Cinderellas stubbornly looking for princes in nightclubs, and after several alcoholic cocktails find ... a lover for one night. Sex in a similar state is unlikely to have a logical continuation or even a civilized completion. In the morning, partners can not recognize each other at all, because wine couples are able to embellish reality with great brilliance.
5. Habits and Disadvantages
Sometimes a charming, interesting man charms at first sight. But from the second it turns out that he too likes to drink and chat. Do not be afraid if you are not going to continue dating, that's just these habits can spoil and intimate moment. Male psychology differs from women's, in the sense that their ability to listen to large volumes of the latest gossip about celebrities, to put it mildly, is limited. Therefore, too loquacious partner strains. A man can sustain such a verbal flow only once, if that is the only way to get "access to the body". But in the morning the talkative girl does not have to count on the continuation, as well as the lady abusing the use of alcoholic beverages.
6. Complete failure
For any reason, a man could not realize his physical desire. The situation is unpleasant for you and tragic for him. Naturally, this start of the continuation, most likely will not happen.
7. Is accessibility not a defect?
Most men are attracted to spontaneous sex. Who would refuse to have fun if the girl herself hangs around her neck? No one, but this rule lasts a couple of nights - no more. Somewhere in the genes of the stronger sex is stored the ancestral memory of their ancestors - hunters, who valued only what was got at a high price. Therefore, it is not worth hoping for affordable ladies to stamp a passport. This applies to the seasoned ladies' man. A serious girl, not inclined to adventures, will not associate her life with such a frivolous and unnecessary person. Well, what is his husband and father?
8. And we are so different!
The reason is banal, but it is because of it that people basically part. Different habits, views, opinions, biorhythms. And most importantly, inability and unwillingness to compromise.
9. Contraception
Everyone knows the possible consequences of unprotected sex with a casual partner. And yet for many men the use of a condom is akin to a feat. Reluctance to perform this feat a woman can regard as a manifestation of selfishness and irresponsibility, which does not decorate the lover in her eyes.
In the opposite situation, when a woman neglects "protection", a man may suspect her of wanting to have a child, although his plans did not include paternity.
10. Lover-egoist
Such persons in bed rush to satisfy only their needs, while completely ignoring the feelings and desires of the partner. Naturally, no one will want to have a long romance with such a person.
Here are the main ten reasons why people who have entered into an accidental connection, will soon part. But if a flame flared between the sparks of sympathy, then no reason will prevent them from becoming a happy married couple.