Who among us with one girlfriend did not discuss the other, and with her behind her back? We, driven by curiosity or idleness, with dislike or neutral - it does not matter why and how it happened. But suddenly you are faced with such a situation, that gossip is about you dismiss. And not anywhere in a friendly narrow circle, namely at work. How to react and treat at work to gossip? Why did you become the heroine of the office chronicle?
Who and why dissipates at work gossip?
There is such an opinion that gossip is an exclusively women's occupation. However, practice shows that men are also inclined to speculate, spread rumors. And therefore, even if you work in a man's team, then you should not relax.
There are several reasons why gossip is at work in the workplace. First of all, this is envy. It is possible to a specific person who becomes an object of gossip, or to all persons who though anything outperform the gossip. It is not so much about envy, in the last instance, as about the bitterness of the whole world. A person, telling the news of others, as if over others, rises, raising his self-esteem.
The next reason for gossip at work is curiosity. A person by nature is curious. Something about someone heard and became interesting, then thought out the details, retold ... Often even without malicious intent, but the consequences can be the most sad.
The next reason is boredom. A well-known aphorism says: there are people who push our world ahead. And there are those who indignantly shout after them: "And where only this world rolls this!". The latter, however, live mostly on the basis of a house-work scheme, dimly, grayly, and dejectedly sad. However, the human soul requires impressions. Some people are chitetromans, living with their heroes everyday situations, which are invented by the author, others are watching serials, and, after some of the original reality-shows, other people's lives become saturated and bright. People are gossiping about her, discussing your nearest ones, let alone your personal life.
Often the cause of gossip is competition. Gossip in the workplace is a weapon in the struggle, as a rule, with competitors. And how "lethal" it will be, depends on the manipulative skills and skill of the gossip.
The next reason is the pursuit of significance. It is the person who talks a lot, is interesting to others, and many will agree with this. However, not everyone will expand their horizons, increasing their erudition. It's much easier, spreading the gossip about others to play in the "information ruler of the world."
Revenge. As without it - were friends, shared all the secrets, and everything was fine. And they quarreled - and everyone around you already knows about your secrets, even with such "details" that you were horrified. And in this case, the gossip in the work collective is a way of revenge. Well, everything is worth paying for, and for frankness as well.
How to respond to work on gossip?
From the above, it can be seen that they spread gossip on the job in order to annoy you or you just got "under the distribution." How can such gossip be reacted if they are part of "military action"? In this case, there is one or several employees who are in a relationship with you in a spirit of hostility. They are the focus of gossip and are.
As a rule, your enemy can be intimidated, and also destroy or with him to make peace. You can try to calmly discuss the problems and find a compromise. Or demoralize gossips by launching rumors and about them. However, in this case, the war may be delayed. And if you have power, you can dismiss laymen, under any other pretext. You need to choose the path that will be most appropriate in your situation. After all, you have to go to work with pleasure, and not as hard labor.
But if the gossip at work about you is dismissed not from the desire to harm, and for example, from boredom, then it is impossible to be angry with such a person, although it is unpleasant that they tell you about all sorts of nonsense. How to act in this situation?
You need to try to react to gossip calmly and indifferently. In the hearts you will splash out your displeasure - the gossips will only give you a new breath of inspiration. The best option is to translate everything into a joke. And if you do not cease to gossip, take also participation in creating fables of your imaginative life. Namely, throw some ridiculous "facts" to the gossips, make the situation absurd. This will reduce the interest in your person, and the gossips will find another victim.
Precautionary measures
The following tips will help you reduce the risk of becoming the main heroine of office chronicle issues, will help to correctly respond to gossip.
Never tell your colleagues about global secrets. It is absolutely necessary to sit silently, because there are many different neutral topics. For example, fashion, theater, books, serials, culinary recipes, etc.
Do not take part in supporting gossip about your colleagues and especially do not divulge your trusted secrets to you.
If a potential gossip saw you in an ambiguous situation and you feel that after a while and the whole legend is about you, then act on the lead. For example, first tell the interested persons exactly their vision of the situation. And as a rule, if the secret became obvious, then there is simply no reason for gossip.
At work from gossip, no person is insured. Especially if it stands out against the general background, something does better than others, tends to the best and achieves something. It is necessary to try to see the positive in the gossip. Let such tales only inspire you with your existence. After all, if they talk about you, then you are worth something in this life!