Do not use the distance method
This situation is very delicate, because the girl wants to keep friendship and do not cross the line. While her friend wants to step over this line, as it will mean that she also harbors no friendly feelings towards him, and so they can be together. In this situation, girls often choose tactics of distance. They try to communicate as little as possible with a young man, call him, write, believing that in this way they help to forget about feelings. In fact, in almost all cases, this tactic does not work, and if it does, the result obviously does not satisfy the female sex. The fact is that when the girl starts to move away, the man decides to forget it. Not just as a girl, but as a person. It's no secret that it's hard to be close to your loved one, not being able to be with him together. And if not every man finds the strength to go himself, then when a woman does it, he takes her behavior as a sign of fate and tries to completely forget her. But when the guy disappears from the "radar", the girl starts to miss her friend and look for him with him. Often in such cases, damynalkilsya to a fairly negative and irritable attitude to yourself. Onnikik can not understand why a best friend has become completely ignored or even negatively affected. In fact, everything is very simple. When a girl moves away, a man takes it as her choice and tries to forget with all her strength. And then, it would seem, everything turned out, she suddenly finds herself again and needs attention. Firstly, guys do not understand this behavior at all. It seems incompletely illogical. And secondly, they begin to get angry with both the girl and the insect. The girl - for what she provokes, rekindles feelings, and insects - for not being able to control themselves, love will again flare up and all around in a circle. It turns out that there are conflicts between former friends that can suddenly turn into a manifestation of passion on the part of a man who has been holding back so much time, and now all his emotions are bursting outward.
There is one more variant of the development of events. In this case, the girl was already trying to move away and eventually returned. Therefore, when he dares to use such tactics again, the young man simply begins to wait. He believes that she will return, just need a little to endure. Accordingly, at this time, the beloved turns into a forbidden fruit for him, from which the feelings are inflamed even more. Therefore, when a girl decides to renew a relationship, she sees in front of her not a friend, but a guy who is in love with her even more than before breaking off the relationship. Therefore, as you can see, such tactics are not a way out. In any case, you either get even more passionately in love with a young man, or you will lose your friend forever. So you need to choose absolutely different tactics, which we will now talk about.
Honest relationship
In order to resolve the current situation, it is necessary to talk with your friend. But first of all, honestly ask yourself: is your relationship to the young man only friendly or is there something you do not admit to yourself? The fact is that if you are not honest with yourself, then the moment will come when you will understand that you still love this person, that's where the feelings will burn and he will not want to build relationships with you. Therefore, it's best to decide for yourself right away, what do you really want. And if you still understand that the young man is closest to you and dear, but only as a friend, then be sure to talk to him about everything. Unnecessarily in such situations leads to the fact that people start to come up with something that does not really exist, but I would very much like to be. Do not be surprised if after you just close this topic, the guy will begin to see the ambiguity in any of your gestures and gaze. So it's best to arrange all points over "i" immediately.
The conversation should be started in a relaxed atmosphere and alone. Do not say anything with friends or acquaintances. Another important advice - do not drink. It's not a secret that alcohol multiplies our feelings and emotions, forcing everything to be perceived too close to the heart. Therefore, if you drink, it is possible that the conversation will turn into a scandal, or it will end up completely differently than you wished. The fact is that women are always ready to regret everyone, and in a state of intoxication this pity is hyperbolized. So do not be surprised if the next morning you will understand that you agreed to meet with your friend and almost swore to him in love, because you are sorry for him.
If you decide to talk, then in any case, you can not hold back something and do not talk. You must let the young man express all his thoughts so that he does not have a feeling that he has not finished something, that's why you are not together. After he tells you everything, it's time for you to collect your will into a fist and explain your vision of the situation. Just do not have to regret or hold back something or give an imaginary hope. In this case, the bitter truth is really better than the sweet lie. Therefore, it is necessary to say how you value friendship, but do not see at all in a nemskogo guy, so, unfortunately, there is nothing to hope for.
And after both sides express their opinion, it will be time to find a solution for this situation. In this case, never let yourself be selfish. If your friend says that he wants to break with you all the relationships, because he can not just be friends - do not resist. Yes, vymobolno from the fact that you lose a loved one, but if it is dear to you, you must understand that it will be bad for you.
If the young man still wants to continue to be friends, then agree that you will behave as before, without looking at his love. That is, if with you there will be other men, he does not have to compete, arrange scenes and so on. Be sure to say that you understand the beautiful, but you also want to keep friendship, and this result can only be achieved if you both forget about his feelings. If a man understands that he really does not rely on anything, but you still need it as a friend, then most likely he will be able to overcome his emotions and turn around in circles.