Why do we ponder over this question. Why do we ask ourselves: should I go back to the ex-boyfriend? Such questions appear only when feelings for the former boyfriend have not yet passed. After all, think for yourself, we do not think whether we need to return to the former when we feel anger and irritation towards him. Or do not experience anything.
But what happens then and why do girls start thinking about a guy whose relationship with them has ended long ago? In what situations is this happening? Most often, everything starts with a call or an accidental meeting. If the parting was normal, then the former girl does not experience negative, and therefore normally communicates. Of course, she is confident that she feels for this guy only thanks for a well-spent time. But, everything can be completely wrong. Especially if the former one wants to bring you back. In such situations, the young man begins to "build bridges" gradually. If a guy has enough intelligence and imagination, he does it so imperceptibly that it just seems to you that you became friends. But, in fact, it's not like that at all. Time passes and you think about whether you should return to this person.
In this situation, before making a decision, you need to weigh the pros and cons, remember everything and only then decide whether you need to return. Do not rush into the pool with your head and believe in everything he says. When a person sets a goal, he acts so that it can be achieved. But not the fact that his behavior will not change after he gets his. Therefore, to begin with it is worth remembering why you broke up. The reasons can be very diverse, both weighty and rather meaningless. If you broke up into stupidity, then perhaps now, when both he and you have realized the mistakes, have matured and become wiser, you really should try again. In the end, as they say "an attempt is not torture." But it's worth doing only when you really have nothing to lose. If you do not feel particularly strong feelings for this guy, then you should not abandon something more serious and reliable for him.
If the reason was really weighty, like, for example, lies, jealousy, resentment, then think, could you forgive and will you constantly remind him of this? Because it is almost impossible to build new relationships on past grievances. Also you must understand if your young man has corrected. Even if he behaves perfectly, do not believe it unconditionally. It takes time and attention. It is not necessary to plunge into old feelings from the first weeks of communication. Keep yourself in hand and watch. If a guy put on a mask to get you back, most likely he'll get a pang in the near future, but these punctures will be minimal and you need to be careful to notice them. Before you renew your relationship with a man, you must be absolutely sure that he will not hurt you, and you will not part for the same reason. If you have already forgotten it, it is better not to experience again all the suffering that can bring you relationships and parting. In such cases, you need to think a hundred times before returning. There are people who still need to be released, even if we do not want to. Perhaps your ex-boyfriend is just like that. Therefore, if you understand that it will not change - do not come back. Even if a man behaves perfectly, but you feel a trick and do not trust - listen to your intuition and head. In this case, you need to trust the brain, not the heart.
Another problem that can arise in this situation is a guy. But not the former, but the real one, the one that is now with you. Is it worth throwing a person for someone from the past? In this case, everything is also very, very difficult. There can be a variety of options for the development of events and your behavior, depending on the situation. First, you need to decide how you feel about the person with whom you meet. Tell yourself honestly what you are experiencing. This is love, affection or habit. It may be that you accept affection for love, or vice versa. Breaking the relationship with someone, you need to be 100% sure that you will not regret. Remember that you will hurt a person who has already become close to you. Therefore, your action must be thought out and make sense. If we hurt, then at least someone should bring something good. And in case you throw one and not be with the other, everyone will suffer. It happens that a girl throws a guy, goes to the former, and then realizes that all this is just residual reflection. And, in fact, she loves the one she left. But, back you will not return anything. Never make such a mistake and do not allow yourself to make hasty decisions. Remember that this is not some kind of frivolous game, but an extremely harsh life, and the consequences can be the most unpredictable. But, if you feel that you really do not like the guy with whom you meet and never love, then you'd better part, even if the former does not work out. Simply, do not deceive a person and give him hope for feelings that will never be reciprocal. Especially if you started dating him to forget your ex-boyfriend. In any case, you need to be prudent and circumspect. Sometimes we just want to return something, but if we return it, we understand that we no longer need it. These were dreams and ideals of the past years, which have completely changed and now everything is different.
But it may be that nothing has passed and you really need this person. And he needs you. And if you both realized your mistakes and are ready to start all over again, then take a chance. Maybe fate really gives you a second chance.