Every day you come home from work and, opening the door of your apartment, you just go on all sorts of hands. After all, always the same thing: the whole mess is around, everything is scattered, everywhere there is not a small layer of dust, and from the vase you are looking at withered flowers, which for a long time already would not be thrown out of the house. In a word, it's better not to look anywhere. And you are powerless to go down to the armchair, having looked around without an interesting look at the whole room, subconsciously you realize that you need to understand all this with all. But, unfortunately, this all repeats from day to day and does not bring any results. This life picture is familiar to many women who can not even understand why this is so. But in this situation you should start not with house cleaning, but with yourself. Let's try to answer the question: "How to understand yourself, understand what I want? ".
If you want a complete order, start with yourself
If the apartment is a mess, remember what it means in your soul is exactly the same. Everything comes from there. Therefore, understand and understand what is happening, first of all, with your soul. Here, just with yourself and your inner world we will begin.
Most often, we lose our peace of mind due to some quarrel with a close person (friend, relative, beloved man). Or because of a variety of conflicts, both at work and in the family. Plus, everything here, you can safely include a constant discontent of itself. After all, you want to change everything, but not in forces. Now, you look at everything that is going on with contempt, constantly punishing yourself for it. Disorder in the purse, at home, on the desktop, here it is, the main indicator that says that you should not dislike yourself. But here, it's not about you at all. You must necessarily understand that emotional suppression and lack of moral strength, entails the lack of physical, including, too. Therefore, putting everything in its place, you must simultaneously understand yourself and answer for yourself the question: "How do I understand what I want from life and myself? ". Cleaning in the house is nothing at all, compared to finding inner harmony with oneself.
Give your debts - and life will improve
If you do not give it to your neighbor within two months, you borrowed 100 rubles, that's okay. Here you just need to allocate a minute and bring it to this money. But there are debts that we ourselves make up. These debts have the ability to increase and to pressure us morally on the inside. An example of such a debt may be, for example, your desire for several months to visit your distant relative or call a friend. And, as luck would have it, you just can not allocate time for this business. But they expect you and are hoping for you. And you have not once found excuses to not do it. And by the way, in case you are caught off guard by a reminder, you too have such an excuse. Thoughtful, but not true. After all, it bites you very much and makes you constantly in suspense, because you respect and love these people, but you can not change anything, or rather you simply do not want it. And here in the life of each of us, in addition to everything, there are places where even "the feet themselves do not go," but, but it is necessary to go. For example, a passport office or a service station. These institutions do not bring any aesthetics from their visit, but to postpone this visit to the far corner is completely not worth it. Otherwise, it can bring many more problems and discomfort in the future.
First sit down and think about why you did not do it much earlier. If it's a matter of your disorganization, lead a daily schedule, but if you just do not want it, find out why exactly and why. Then take yourself on direct control.
But in the event that you really do not want to do something not at all important, and this "something" stretches for you like a cart, thus burdening your existence, try to get rid of such "tails". Remember, if you do not want to do anything or do something, do not go against your will.
Do not leave for tomorrow what can be done today
There are people who undertake a certain task, always bring it to the end. Such people, as a rule, do not suffer from conscience, and they are much more sleepy than others. And what if you do not belong to them? And these matters, like a "yoke on your neck" to reach for you? With such "unfinished" business is very uncomfortable to live, they always pull to the bottom, and over time, they accumulate more and more. What kind of peace of mind and balance can there be in general?
Be sure to finish all this business, and forget about them once and for all. Do not want to - make yourself, or rather find good reasons to want.
To understand what I want with the help of the constructed plan
Most often, we lose our emotional balance because of our uncertainty. For example, in the life of each person, there are certain lists of cases that are placed under two columns, the title of which is "must" and "want." This uncertainty presses on you, because you can not figure out what is really attributed to the "must" number, but what to "want". In this problem, you need to draw up a detailed plan that will certainly help you understand and understand what you want, and what should be done without fail. Just sit down and think about it well. Remember that if you really understand what you want, it will necessarily spodvignet you to implement all that you need. After all, it is always possible to achieve the desired only through the realization of everything else. For example, you want a cosiness in an apartment - you need to make repairs. Here it is, the basic rule of inner harmony between our desires and possibilities. Do not ignore this and pass it by yourself. Remember that the soul can be comfortable, only if you were able to know yourself and what you expect from yourself and life in general. We wish you to successfully understand yourself and implement all your "want", without any "I can not"!