Causes of self-doubt.
The reasons why a person suddenly ceases to trust the closest being, that is, to himself, a multitude. First of all, it's stress.
We are exposed to stress almost every day, and the more active life we lead, the more chances that the stressful situation will overtake us at one stage. Some surprises can pretty much knock down the strength, for example, unexpected problems at work, a stupid quarrel with a close person, insult without reason or anything else. This makes us believe that, perhaps, we ourselves are to blame for the troubles, and guilt strongly influences self-esteem. We think that we can not control the situation, from which negative emotions roll on us like a snowball.
Another common cause of pathological self-doubt comes from childhood. Sometimes parents either voluntarily or involuntarily convince the child that he is not capable of anything. Remember this: "you're a big man!", "All the children already know how, one you ...", "only you are so clumsy"? All such expressions are stored in memory, and the child learns not that it is necessary to be clever, intelligent and obedient, but that he will never be as good as those other people's children who somehow like my mother more. With age, of course, this is forgotten, but there is still a lack of confidence, although it is not so easy to unearth the real cause of this uncertainty.
Sometimes a person loses confidence in their own abilities, thanks to self-suggestion. You need to know that fear of change, danger, shyness or embarrassment is absolutely normal. Some people start to reproach themselves for experiencing understandable and explainable emotions, but as you know, if you persuade yourself for a long time, it will come true. This is how we acquire new character traits , and uncertainty is one of them.
How to deal with uncertainty?
To begin with, you should know that a confident person is not someone who looks proud, arrogant or otherwise. Confidence is expressed in the fact that a person simply does not think about some question or situation. Confidence is when your emotions for some reason do not go away in either a plus or a minus - you just do what you think is necessary without fear and doubt. This is the true self-confidence.
Self-confidence was not lost somewhere, where it could be found, taken and put in place. To achieve that doubts did not interfere with living did not spoil the quality of life can only be one way - to act contrary to them. The very first and most important obstacle that prevents reaching the goal is the fear of failure. But you should know that only those who do not make mistakes are not mistaken. No failure will damage self-esteem if you are sure that you have done everything possible to succeed .
Your self-esteem should not depend on external factors. So avoid categorical assessments of your own actions and feelings, do not use labels like "I can not do this, so I'm a failure", "I do not understand how it works, so I'm a fool." This will only exacerbate the situation.
Praise yourself for every single smallest achievement, try to remember only them. In this case, after a while you can not objectively call yourself a loser. The important point is to give yourself the right to make a mistake in any case. Once you are sure that you are able to cope with the difficulties, in that case your failures will no longer matter. And just as important is not to give up action, not to choose a passive way of life, in which little depends on you. A little time, effort, and self-confidence will return, thanks to the obvious fact - you are capable of much, more than you thought until recently.