Shocking such an alliance can only parents and bridesmaids, who can not understand what the girl found in her chosen one. And, the truth - what?
Due to age
Young women who fall in love with men are much older than themselves, admit that at first they feel unique and unrepeatable. With such a partner, they are more comfortable than with a peer, both socially and sexually. What women find in their beloved men, many do not understand, because this is love.
Peers have not achieved much in life yet. Moreover, they do not know how to properly care for women, to be attentive and caring. And often disappoint their loved ones with excessive fervor and haste in bed, the desire to make the sexual act itself, and not enjoy all the nuances of sensations.
Mature men warn the girl's desires, can reveal to her all the secrets of sex and its subtleties. As a result, a young woman with a mature spouse experiences a powerful sexual pleasure, which the peer may not always be able to give her. What a woman finds in a beloved man, many of us try to find the answer to this question.
back side
Sexologists warn that a medal named "mature, held husband" is the reverse side - time. Unfortunately, it mercilessly takes away the strength and health of the spouse.
Sexual uplift, which occurs in a forty-year-old man with a young wife, usually lasts two to three years. Then his ardor subsides and before a young woman who barely knew all the delights of intimate relations, a tired man, burdened with years, work, and often cares for two families at once appears. He is no longer able to make love in the same turbulent rhythm as his partner.
Not many are ready to answer the question that women can be found in their beloved men.
According to psychologists, a big negative of family relations in marriage with a mature man is also in the change of psychological roles. Often the situation is as follows.
Initially, a young woman sees in her husband a defender and father, who reliably hides her under his wing, as soon as she flies out of the parent's nest. A man perceives a young girl as a woman, next to which he feels himself the real head of the family, to whom he could not become married to a contemporary.
But after a few years, men, as a rule, begin to need women's guardianship more. They are already looking for a "mom" in the grown-up wife, who would take care of them. At the same time, a young woman who has felt her wealth with age, needs this period not at all in the "son" or "daddy". She wants to see next to her friend, associate, who would share her interests and problems with her on an equal footing.
If the spouses do not keep up with the changes taking place with the partner, if they do not find a way out of the situation, then such a marriage breaks up. And at the same time the man suffers more ... What do women find in their beloved men, when it is clear that the satellite is not the most attractive? Probably, this is a matter of love.
Overcoming
And yet you should not think that such marriages have no future. If from the first days of a married life the partners will search for the point of contact with each other, develop a common language, learn to correct themselves in order to go through life shoulder to shoulder, then such relations are able to withstand the strongest everyday storms.
A huge role is played by taste and lifestyle. If both partners prefer classical music and literature or like fishing and hiking, they are interested in communicating and spending leisure together. The environment is also very important: the support of friends, friends and relatives holds together the union.