You start to like other guys - not just boys from a parallel class, but older students, real men. And now you seem to be beautiful, smart, kind, but you do not have a boyfriend yet. And the girlfriends, who seemingly are no better than you, run off in the evenings to meet their boyfriends, throwing you alone alone with some heart-rending melodrama in the TV or a soul-stirring song in the headphones. You think: "I'm 18 and I still did not have a guy, what should I do with this !?"
First, do not cheat yourself. At 18, most girls play hormones, because of which you are exaggerating everything. Any minor turmoil can seem like a massive catastrophe, any glimpse of a nice guy you can take for the manifestation of his secret love, and any insignificant remark of parents for interfering in your personal independent life, and you start a depression: "I'm 18 and I have not had a boyfriend ... probably something is wrong with me . " And if you live uneasy, it is reflected in your eyes, manner of speech, actions. Guys like simple girls, with whom you can chat pleasantly, and who in return will not load up their problems. To such cheerful girls, the guys drag themselves.
Secondly, do not be obsessed with finding a guy. The expression "Who is looking for - that will find" is appropriate when you are looking for a second time, for example, a second sock, but not when it comes to real sincere sympathy (love?). When you start to burn with a predatory fire at the sight of the company cute young guys, and you bore everyone to see if he's worthy of you, the guys just get scared and flee from you like rabbits from a lioness. Better develop your inner world, read books, practice yoga, take part in amateur activities, in a word, cultivate yourself, and as a result you will receive, in addition to your own pleasure, the status of your beloved girl, and not the troubled youngster, you will have a wider circle of communication, there is an interesting guy for you, and even with similar interests.
Do not be narcissistic. Sure, you have a whole bag of positive qualities invested in you and yourself, and your parents and teachers. But leave the guy to discover these qualities of your own, and do not brag about them at the first meeting. A young man can simply think that either he is not worthy of such a clever woman as you, or he will decide that you are not clever at all, and so, an ordinary egoist, and probably will never appear again on your horizon.
Herd instinct. "Everyone has it, but I do not." At 7 years old it's a beautiful school pencil case, at 10 - a real Barbie doll, at 14 - a computer, and a little later: "I'm 18 and I have not had a boyfriend yet - it's a disaster ..." You understood what I mean.
Do not rush things. Talk about a white dress and a carriage decorated with flowers, as many as you like, but with girlfriends, not with a potential boyfriend. At the first stage of the relationship, such words will frighten the guy (yes, it turns out that our strong half of humanity is just cowards), he will simply think that they want to harass him, force him to marry, then divorce, and for many years pull him out, poor , alimony. That's how you will turn out to be insidious in his eyes, simply dreaming out loud.
If you already have a candidate for the prestigious position of your young man, you need to find out about him as much as possible. Fortunately, now there are many social networks, according to the amount of information about a specific person comparable only with the database of the CIA. You can see his interests, hobbies, anything! And at the first opportunity, it suddenly turns out that you have so much in common!
A ticklish point. Sex. Never and under no circumstances try to get a guy by sleeping with him! You will earn yourself the reputation of a frivolous girl, to put it mildly, and humiliate your pride. And even if, God forbid, you still do this, and even if such "mutual assistance" happens more than once, do not forget that you are not a girl to him, since he does not respect you, and does not care, but simply satisfies his physical needs. Moreover, this friend of yours can simply begin to really meet with another girl, and you will stay at the broken trough with a broken heart and something stained with reputation.
It is better to be alone than with anyone. Or with someone you simply do not experience. A week, maybe two of you can pretend that you are interested in this man's society. So what is next? Maybe a man is good, but there are no sparks. All the same, parting sooner or later, only this time you can not offend a good person for anything. And we already said that you are clever, and even you will not offend flies, not that of an unfortunate suitor.
Love accidentally raises when you do not expect it at all. It happens. Even with me it happened. It seems that you have already reconciled, that there is one, and there is no time for love, and everything in business, and then again, and you meet somewhere in the supermarket, in the department of toothpastes and brushes, your love for life. And for 3 months you get married.
You know, at the age of 18, you will have to not only feel the colors of life more than once, but also burn yourself. In any case, this is the time when you gain life experience, learn from mistakes, experience ups and downs, love, sad, laugh, look for yourself. These are the most iridescent years in your entire conscious life, when, by and large, you are not obligated to anyone, except to parents, when you live for yourself, when you can commit the most crazy acts, fixing them on photographic paper. Live this time easily and brightly, do not worry about the little things, and most importantly, take care that there was something to remember.