An intimate relationship with an ex-husband after a divorce happens in several cases.
Firstly, as is known, the behavior of people after divorce can be divided into three types. Some spouses feud, the second cross each other out of life and part in a state of total indifference to each other. And still others try to glue the broken cup. Often it is the divorce that makes it possible to understand the true value of the former spouse. These third parties are most often inclined to have an intimate relationship after the marriage is dissolved.
Secondly, sex after divorce happens in those couples who divorced, but did not part. Not always formal beginning or ending of family relations coincides with informal. Because divorce, like a wedding, many people use not only to change the marital status. Divorce can become a method of blackmail, a subject of bargaining, or simply an attraction of emotions unseen in strength, which are lacking in ordinary life. Intimate relationships with an ex-husband after a divorce are usually given to such women who left, but did not part with their spouse. You can not call this situation very healthy or psychologically stable. The fact is that often spouses continue to meet only for the sake of sex. That is, they, recognizing the inconsistency and inability to build a serious relationship, reduce them to a simple coition. For a while this may be a solution, but not for long. If you really want to leave and find yourself a new husband, an intimate relationship with the ex-husband should be stopped.
Thirdly, sex after divorce becomes possible and in couples who parted enemies or on neutral experiences. Usually this is due to the need to communicate frequently at work or in a company of mutual friends. American psychologists estimated that the likelihood of intimate relationships between former spouses, and just lovers, subject to the tacit consent of both, exceeds 95%. It is for this reason that many couples try to reduce contacts after parting to naught. Or try to communicate only in a formal setting and in the presence of a large number of people.
Sex after divorce, as is commonly believed in psychologists, conceals more dangers in it than prospects. The fact is that sometimes such sex is an attempt to close from the future, undertaken by one or both spouses from despair. Often, women agree to be a sexual toy in the hands of an ex-husband in the hope of returning him to the bosom of the family. Men less often perceive sex after divorce as something serious. Especially traumatic, an intimate relationship with an ex-husband can be in a situation if the husband has gone to another woman, but by the old habit continues to have sex and with an ex-wife. For a woman, in any case, the first stage of post-mortem stress, which lasts from two to eight weeks, to survive away from the former spouse.
Sometimes sex after a divorce is not related to trying to get a wife back or having fun until a new partner comes up. Sometimes spouses for material reasons have to live together after the divorce. Or they are forced to meet often because of children and family holidays. It happens that they work together or lead a common business. In this situation it is important to understand what you personally want. If you see real prospects for restoring a relationship, perhaps it's worth trying. If there are no chances of reunification, then it is worthwhile to think up an opportunity to stop intimate relations with the ex-husband.
It is better to spend this time on trying to distance oneself from former problems, to understand yourself and your feelings, to put new values in life, to prioritize. Do not rush to the other extreme: it is urgent to look for a person to whom you can move, or with whom you can start a relationship to put a final point in the previous. It's not for nothing that psychotherapists talk about a metaphorical suitcase of problems. Passing from one marriage to the other, we can not take a toothbrush with us. And all the suitcases of the problems are dragged almost unchanged. The result can be very disappointing: after all, the second or third marriage will become unhappy, and its collapse can lead to complete disbelief in yourself. To prevent this from happening after the divorce, it's worth taking a timeout, reducing intimate relationships with anyone else, and trying to analyze your problems and the reasons for the setbacks. It is necessary to get rid of at least some of the problems that destroyed your family happiness. That's when an interesting man and good sex with him will become much more real than if you wait for a suitable candidate, spending time in bed with an ex-spouse.