It is important to always feel the opportunity to express frustration or discuss what seems to be wrong to you. Remember, this is not what you say, but how do you say!
Make sure that you have enough time to really long to discuss your differences.
If you try to stop your partner on the way to work or call him at lunchtime, then there is a great chance to remain dissatisfied and unrecognized due to lack of time. If this is important, then agree on a time when you can discuss the matter. Your attention to the man's personal time will give you a credit of trust, which he will show you when discussing the problem.
Do not invent anything!
It is impossible to know exactly what is happening until you really hear it from your partner. Do not try to imagine what he thinks, just ask. This will help save you from troubles and avoid the huge misconceptions taking time, which can be spent on conversation.
Do not interfere with the past in this conversation. If you want to solve the problem, then make the partner feel that it is really solvable. When you raise the past, you make it clear that regardless of all the changes and efforts that have taken place, you still think that the fault is with the partner. Where are the incentives for improvement?
If you are mistaken in something - apologize! Do not delay and do not try to blame someone else. If you broke the promise, said or did something that you would not like to admit, then the apology or compensation depends only on you. Not only will you feel better from the consciousness of your ability to be honest, but your man will also learn to trust you, knowing your sense of responsibility.
Interrupt before the situation gets to the limit.
If you feel that you are getting angry - rest 15 minutes, walk, listen to music, do something around the house to dispel your rage.
Do not quarrel in front of friends.
You automatically alert the partner when you start to find out the main problems in front of other people. In addition, disagreement, instead of being a personal problem, becomes public knowledge. Look at it from the position of your partner. Would you be able to lead a really honest and open discussion if there were an army against you? Agree that you talk about what happened far away from unnecessary eyes and ears.