It is believed that true love is the only and for life, but you can only love one person. But in reality everything is much more complicated than it seems. Some people in life develop such situations, when it seems that the girl loves two at once. How to act in this case and is this true love?
Finding a site
Every girl in her life is looking for the perfect man. As practice shows, these guys really do not exist. But still, even if you choose a fairly ordinary young man, deep in the soul or subconsciously beautiful ladies still try to find that special one. Most often they are looking for him in who they meet. But sometimes it happens that one guy does not have any qualities, but in another they are. That's when the feeling arises that the girl loves two at once. In fact, each for certain qualities. And she wants to get everything, about the black-haired man dreams. But one person can not give it to her, but two are quite. That can happen with almost everyone. And the girl can seem that she likes one, and she just likes another. But at the same time she still can not choose everything. After all, for example, one of them is a romantic who helps to turn life into a fairy tale, but he is too serious and does not want to indulge her childish pranks. But in the second romance there is no, but he sincerely tries to make her happy, and give everything, albeit without serenades under the window, and he is touched by all of her sweet antics, to which the latter looks like stupid things and wants her to grow up quickly. In this situation, girls are often confused and can not understand what they need.
A sober assessment of the situation
In fact, everything is not as difficult as it seems. No matter how we try to find the perfect man, some guys attract us more, but others less. Simply entangled in feelings, women begin to panic and can not understand what is really happening to them. All the same, two people can not be loved at the same time. Sympathize - yes, but no love. In order to understand the situation, you need to ask yourself: "Without whom will I not be able to live?". Such a question may seem to many to be too naive and exaggerated, but you can only understand yourself. You need to soberly assess the situation and decide for yourself, with whom you want to spend your whole life. To be more precise, life can not be imagined without a cohort. That's when the truth will open, and, everything can be completely different from what it seems initially. Perhaps, the one who seemed to be just a pleasant interlocutor and a good friend is loved. Do not forget that people are idealistic people and do not notice much. And if you sit down and all soberly divorced on the shelves, it may well turn out that the primary opinion was faulty. True love is different from romantic walks under the moon, composing the poems for each other and dreams. True love is a belief that a person will appreciate, love and respect you today, tomorrow and in twenty-five years. And most importantly, you will treat him the same way. All the rest is dreams, idealization, sympathy, friendship, but not love. Some women, like men, claim that they are both dear to each other. But if you really put them before the choice, when you need to decide exactly one or the other, they will remain only with one person. That's it, and that's it, darling. And the rest is just satisfaction of your dreams and dreams, which we create throughout life under the influence of romantic films, books and serials. But in fact, real earthly love is different from what was invented and if you soberly assess the situation, you can understand who exactly is the topic.
Sex is not love
Another reason why a person can show that he loves two is sex. For example, a woman does not satisfy her husband, she finds herself a lover who creates miracles in bed. As a result, it begins to seem that she loves two, because she can not abandon any of them. In fact, different people have different libido. Some may not attach sexual importance, even if it is not enough or it is not as desired. Avot others to deal with this much more difficult. And when they find a partner who satisfies them, it begins to seem that this is love. But nasamom it's just a sexual desire and nothing more. If a person loves, in the end he will choose one. But when the feelings are based on sex, it begins to seem that you love two at once. But in fact one of these men simply wants a woman. Therefore, getting into this situation, you just need to understand what is more important for you: the sexual side of relationships or platonic. By the way, in such situations it often turns out that a woman does not like any of her men. Just one of them is familiar, in its own way and it is hard to imagine how it will live without it. But this is not at all because of love, as many think, but only out of pity or unwillingness to change the habitual way of life. And the second man seems to be loved only because he satisfies his sexual desires. In such a situation, ladies are best able to recognize that it is necessary to start a new life and decide whether it can be with a lover. Sometimes it happens that the sexual partner really turns out to be that most loved person. But if you analyze everything, a woman realizes that nothing but sex separates them, then in such a situation it is better to leave both a relationship with a completely new person who will satisfy both morally and sexually. And those who think that they can not leave their husbands because of love, while having a lover, need to understand that experiencing true love, do not want to side with even if there are problems in place. Simply over time, if these problems are not solved, love also goes.
I do not like anybody
But most often when a woman rushes between the twoparties and can not choose one of them, in fact she does not like the first or the second. If analyzing the situation, it can not answer clearly, no one could live, then it's not love, it's just the usual sympathy. In fact, we can sympathize with several people at the same time. They can attract us externally, mind or behavior. Just some of the girls are friendly to the spades, which they like, clearly separating love from the usual sympathy for the person. But others are very difficult to understand and admit that by spraying feelings we do not experience something real.
Some ladies are very worried because they have two. In such situations, you do not have to reproach yourself and hate yourself. It is necessary to be honest and above all with yourself. If you truly answer the question of who really is the most important and beloved person in life, you can immediately understand where there is love, and where it is not. And realizing this, do not hesitate to regret and try to do so that all was well. Unfortunately, when love triangles are formed, it is simply impossible. But if you omit a person or people you do not love, they will be able to experience this new relationship. But being confused and confusing others, you will suffer to impose those who you seem to love. Therefore, always remain honest yourself and remember that it is really possible to love only one person.