You met a man - kind, gentle, intelligent ... His only drawback - he was divorced. Is it worth building a relationship with him?
According to statistics, in our country from 100 marriages about 70 end in divorce. And so the probability of meeting a former family man on his way of life is quite high. For some reason, this prospect frightens many people. Do not be afraid! If his previous marriage failed, it does not mean that your relationship will end just as sadly.
Its weaknesses
When meeting a divorced man, do not ... ... console him, despite the fact that he needs it. Believe me, this is not the best option. Either he will leave you as soon as he survives the period of post-mortem depression, or else you will remain in the role of "vest" ... Trying to save him from anything - from alcoholism or jealousy. It's wrong to think that his wife was wrong in something, did not appreciate, did not understand, and so he came to this, and you can change everything. Believe me: you can not change a person.
It's better not to get into the soul. If a man has not been able to survive the gap, he will be hurt by such questions. It may be closed or, conversely, it will be necessary to talk about the past in detail. In any case, you will be "out of the box". If the divorce is for him in the past, he will laugh it off or, worse, become angry.
Become his mother.
He eats sausages with pasta and dumplings, walks in poorly ironed things? Of course, it's great to show off as a good housewife, but do not rush into it. First find out who you are for him.
Strengths
Some women believe that divorced men are much better than those who were not married, because they are more experienced. And this has its own truth.
The former family man is much more relaxed about women's whims. He knows well what critical days are and understands that at this time the spouse can behave not quite adequately. He already had experience with his mother-in-law and father-in-law, which is also very important.
He was accustomed to hurry home after work, and not sit out with friends in a bar. He had already realized that the salary should be spent not only on himself, but also on the family. Unlike bachelors, he understands how to treat the phrases "I have nothing to wear" and "in five minutes will be ready." He already burned at such moments and now he will try not to repeat the same mistakes.
Of course, he, one way or another, will compare you to the "former." But in the beginning you will also remember your men.
He is not your hero. Run away from him, if he ...
1. Constantly speaks about his ex-wife: "We went with her ...", "She said that here are the best sushi in the city." Apparently, he is still closely connected with her. And maybe he will never forget.
2.All time complains about her: "She's a stupid, fat, bad housewife, she did not understand me." If he says so about a woman who was married, then you can expect the same fate.
3. He says that the husband is to blame for divorce. He does not want to admit his mistakes, but both are always involved in the rupture.
4. He does not see his children from his first marriage and does not help them financially. Well, who is he after that ?!
In order for your relationship to be of a high standard, always listen to his pleas and requests. After all, all men - like cats, they always lack fondness and tenderness. Therefore, extra caress, never hinder. Treat your man with respect, and of course with love. To ensure that your future husband or boyfriend always treated you with love and never dared to tell you about you, even if you broke up, that you are fat and ugly. You should always follow your appearance, because even at home you should look simple and tasteful. Learn to live beautifully!