As long as there is a family, there is so much the question "Who is in charge of the family?" The head of the family with a capital letter is undoubtedly a man. But this rule is valid only in the patriarchal family, which is living out its age.
Men and women zealously rush into the battle, tearing each other's palm tree of primacy. Is it really important who is the head of the family?
Most importantly, it is most likely that the spouse (husband or wife) copes with these duties in full, and does not interfere with each other's responsibilities for the development of the family. After all, we all know perfectly well that any business, enterprise or the same family will rot from the head, that is, from unreasonable leadership.
Therefore, it is very important that your family is headed by the most-most of you, the head of the family with a capital letter. Personally, I believe that they should be a man. Why? After all, in our pseudo-patriarchal society, a woman literally drags her family, you will say, men do nothing for the family. Do you know why? Because women do not give anything to the man, they take on his duties, and what does the husband have to do, if not he decides what and how should happen in his family? And if the head of the family is a man, then your functions will include housework, caring for the husband and children, while the husband will still help you with the housework, if necessary, and with a great desire.
Doubt? And you do not doubt! Make your husband a hero, the head of the family with a capital letter, the real boss in the house, so that he feels his strength and his responsibility for himself, for you, for your children. Of course, if you have dragged everything on yourself for a long time already, and your husband does not even lift a finger to do something useful for the house and family, it's your fault and it's up to you now whether you can change the situation.
The woman is the keeper of the hearth, should be wise in terms of building relationships with her husband, you need to become with him a "gray cardinal", and what it is, you hardly need to explain to anyone. In this situation, the husband feels himself a full head of the family and fulfills all the duties of the head of the family, such as material security, the solution of issues related to housing, recreation, training, and so on, and the wife wisely governs his actions. And all are happy and happy, believe me.
Be the head of the family with a capital letter too responsible! Although our women are able to roll mountains, but do this, still not necessary. But the situation in the family depends not only on the wife, but also on the position of the husband. Because, it is one thing to be called the head of the family, and quite another to be in fact. Men, are you ready to become real earners, managers, owners, rulers in your small world? All in your hands! If you were married, that is, took responsibility for your wife, and be kind, take care of her, most importantly, learn to understand her, her interests and needs. After all, it's your personal happiness and happiness of your family that will depend on you.
Can you change your life dramatically? If you got married, then you must do it. You will have to forget all your friends and girlfriends, now the main thing in your life is the family. If you think otherwise, then you could not get married, because you are not ready for marriage. And if you, a man, do not become the head of the family, then no woman will respect you.
To achieve such a primacy can only be a wise leadership, and not screaming and scandals. Do not be afraid of mistakes, because they learn from mistakes, but your wife can interpret fear of worldly problems as your weakness. Some men of our country allow themselves to use force against their wives. They think this, perhaps, the manifestation of their seniority, but the woman interprets this differently - if a man raised his hand on a woman, then he is a weakling and a coward. Men, by force you can not prove that you are the master of the house! Reasonable people, especially people close, should be able to talk and solve all their problems through dialogue.
Dialogue will help to get to know each other better. Only a strong and courageous man is ready to solve all his affairs through dialogue. In case the wife refuses to go for verbal contact, then you should think about whether you need such a wife?
This will not happen if you always remember that your wife is the best, the most beautiful, the cleverest and the sexiest, that's why you married her, do not you? Do you think your wife wanted to marry a loser? And for whom your wife will hold you, depends only on your life position.
A real man always achieves what he wants. Decide what you want to achieve in life. An apartment, a car, a country house? You can do everything if you have a reliable rear - a loving and understanding wife. A weak man, a drunkard or a drug addict can not be an attractive partner for marriage.
It would be nice for our men to remember that a woman is a weak creature and needs your help and your attention. You need it and just for communication. With whom else she talk, who to complain to, from whom to seek advice and support? You do not want your wife to seek support from someone else? The same can be said about homework. You, as the head of the family, should distribute household duties in such a way that both you and your wife have time to spend it together, giving each other the joy of communication. Do not forget that sexual intercourse strengthens relationships. And the more you help your wife in the household, the more warmth and affection she will be able to give you. Love each other!