Causes of the gap.
You broke up, and you live the illusion that maybe, everything could have been different for you. That's why, of course, you put your hopes on what can still be returned. And if you (or even both of you) have feelings, how not to dream about this? But before thinking about whether it is worth returning former relationships, you need to be guided by the reason why you broke up. And such reasons, as a rule, a lot. And they can share on innocuous, which in time is easy to forget, to survive, and those who left a very deep mark on the heart, for a long time settled in your memory. In the first case - if you broke up, as if to say, stupid, not understanding each other, jealous for no reason, or did it because of a small trifle, which now both regret. With these reasons, you can easily measure up, completely crossed them and it's easy to start everything with your ex from scratch. But there are also those reasons for the gap, which can greatly affect your relationship even after reconciliation. They are the ones that refer to those factors that leave a "deep scar on the heart" of one of the partners and are very hard to say goodbye. For example, your ex-boyfriend, who wants to resume your relationship, cruelly betrayed you (albeit once), raised his hand against you, morally humiliated and so on. It is one of these reasons that made you take a responsible step and say no to these relationships. In this case, it is necessary, first of all, to think about your future next to this person. After all, it's not a fact, having come together with your ex, you will once again experience all these adversities on yourself again. Remember that people rarely change and if it was so, it is possible that this will happen again. In a word, if you are considering the option of whether or not you need to return to this guy, consider this act carefully and remember what exactly caused your separation.
We compare the facts.
If you have not decided yet, go back to your ex-boyfriend or continue ignoring him, try to make a list of all his positive as well as negative qualities. After all, you know the expression: "The paper will endure all", - why do not you check it out? Take a sheet of paper, draw it into two columns: in the first write all the pluses (specify what exactly you are driving them), and in the second - the minuses of your ex-boyfriend. Then put them under the pillow, and in the morning, on a fresh head, read this all. Of course, you can say that instead of that you can throw a coin. But it will not give you anything, because it's about your future, in which you want to see next to you a devoted and loving man. So read these pluses and minuses and make for yourself one general conclusion, whether you need to return to the former relationship. By the way, remember what you fell in love with this person and how well you managed to learn and discover it. Remember that this means a lot and will certainly help to decide what to do.
Terms decide a lot.
What is the term of your former relationship? A week, a month, six months? What can I say, you did not manage to find in that short period that "golden middle" for which lovers live and "breathe each other". Or maybe you just did not have that chemistry or just did not have time for it. But in any case, of course, you can return to these relationships and try to build them again. Well, if you've been together for a year, two, five ... and parted, believe me, it's unlikely that anything will change if you rejoin. If you do not have enough time to build your love, it makes no sense to stick together again, because they can once again crack. And the second time this will be much more painful.
Live without thinking about you ...
In any glued cup, a seam is always visible, even if you use the most effective glue to hide it. That's exactly what happens in relationships between people. Go twice in the same river, the case, of course, noble and, as they say, already proven, but the share of risk remains always. This is worth remembering. Think about it, maybe you should not go back to your ex-boyfriend? After all, living the illusion that you can get everything from the second attempt, it just simply pushes away from you the chance to meet the one that is real, with which everything can turn out on the first attempt. Think, maybe you do not need to go back to the future, but it's worth starting a new life (sorry for the tautology) from a new page and with new love!
And advice for fixing: do not go back to where you have already been burned, because it can happen to you again, and then the burn will be much more painful, and the scar from it is deeper. You are worthy of the best! Worthy to love and be loved without any experiments, repetitions and attempts "number two", which, it is not improbable, can give a cut-off. Live the future, not the past and throw out of your head unnecessary illusions that pull you back to your ex-boyfriend and former relationships with him! Good luck!