Love without trust is anything, but definitely not love. It often happens that from trust to his man, there is little left when he is tested for strength countless times. There are statistics, according to which more than 70% of married couples are familiar with this situation, not by hearsay. Any problem can be solved, therefore, you can also learn to trust a man.
First of all, it is necessary to determine the reason that, as a deep-seated splinter, prevents a woman from unconditionally trusting her man. Here, the choice is rich and unlimited from usual fear and excessive self-sufficiency to unsuccessful experience in the past. Everyone who encountered this, for himself, identifies the causes of the problem.
The list of things that people who do not trust a friend lose, it can be very, very long, the main thing is that the relations marked by the distrust of one of the partners do not bring any joy to both. If your relationship is dear to you, you have to fight with distrust until it is possible. when this kind of doubt creeps into your head, causing a sense of mental discomfort, think: "Is there a reason for this, or am I just winding myself?" If it turns out that there is a reason, it is urgent to understand it, either alone or together with their partner. It all depends on how serious everything is. After all, you can go out and so that you misinterpret the accidentally thrown phrase, or thoughtless gesture.
There can not be healthy, harmonious relationships if there is no confidence between two people making up a couple. Here the main desire, if there is a desire to trust each other, then you just need to follow certain rules:
- You do not need to think about what happened in past relationships, especially if there was nothing good in them, and about the relationships that can be with someone else. No need to rush to extremes, thinking that everything will be as bad as last time, or thinking that with someone it can be better. Live the present, especially if you are comfortable and comfortable in the current relationship. Why all spoil all kinds of "ifs"? After all, it is known that thoughts materialize, so adjust yourself only to a positive mood and all you will have.
- Do not be too suspicious and suspicious. The position "step to the right step to the left - shooting" is not acceptable for the relationship. Do not press on your man, do not make interrogations and hysterics, just because he was late for 10 minutes at work, or answered your SMS not as soon as you expected.
- Do not make your man constantly excuse himself before you. Look at this format of communication from the outside, do you really like it? Do not constantly reproach him for something, especially if the reproaches are groundless and do not have any evidence, except your imagination. Think about the fact that sooner or later he may get bored with it, and he will want to run away from you.
- Trust the person next to whom you are. Why not? Why it is necessary to humiliate each other with constant suspicions, checking calls to his friends or colleagues or viewing his list of calls and SMS with further interrogation with a passion for the topic, "What is this Anya, with whom you spoke for 10 minutes ?!"
- Give way to a sense of humor, not scandals. Situations are different, like you can accidentally find yourself in an ambiguous situation, you do not need to pour on him a stream of accusatory speeches, it's better just to laugh together about what happened.
- Remember, if your partner will see and feel your trust in him, he will be more honest and open with you. In other words, you will get a relationship with positive feedback.
If you keep torturing your man all the time with unsubstantial suspicions, then without noticing it, push him to the fact that he will start doing things that you do not need to know about. He decides that than to listen to your constant complaints just like that, it makes sense to have an outlet on the side, and a real excuse for your discontent.
All of the foregoing does not exclude the possibility that a man who is actually a man who is really not worthy of trust is ranks. Everything happens in life. And if the figure is one who does not take your feelings into account, clearly he does not care about you, you can not seek for him permanent excuses and spend his best feelings on him. You do not have to break yourself into someone, it will not bring you happiness and joy. You just need to try to look at your eyes as much as possible soberly, to see his dignity and his shortcomings. Ideal people do not exist, it is better to accept it. Just decide for yourself which of its shortcomings are ready to accept, and which are not.