Fathers of singles do not meet as often as mothers, but there are cases when the father himself grows a child. And if you became a girl of such a man, how to behave when the jealousy of the child to the girlfriend of the father is shown?
First, always remember that in jealousy of the child to the friend of the father there is nothing strange and abnormal. On the contrary, it is rare when a kid immediately takes on a new woman in his family, especially if he is already at a conscious age. So you do not need to consider yourself a bad person, cheat, or nurture inferiority complexes. Remember that unlike a child, you are an adult and in this situation should show all their wisdom and use all the skills.
So, how do you act in a situation where you see the jealousy of a baby? To begin with, you must show the child that you do not in any way want to take his father away from him. Therefore, when you meet a young man, let him take his son or daughter with him. Of course, you will have less intimacy, but in the head of the child will cease to appear thoughts that the pope spends time not with him, but with you. Thus, his jealousy will not have a nutritious soil and will gradually begin to disappear.
Do not try to take the place of mom
It is very difficult when a young dad has a girlfriend, soon after he broke up with the mother of the child. Naturally, for a baby mom is the only and best woman with whom the father simply has to be together. And to his friend, no matter how good a person may be, the kid treats like an enemy. Do not take his behavior at your own expense. You must respect the feelings of the child to your mother. But also with the young man you need to teach him to respect the feelings of the father to you. Therefore, explain to the baby that you are not going to take the place of your mother and understand that she is the best for him. But if he loves Dad, then you must understand that you are his friend and he is fun and interesting with you. Of course, in such situations, there are many complex questions like: "And what about father and mother worse and why?". In this case, it's very good when your man and his ex-wife parted friends. Then she will not have hatred for the new girlfriend of the former and you can count on the help of his mother, who will also explain to her son or daughter that there is nothing wrong with the fact that the pope will meet with another aunt. If you see that the ex-wife is setting up a child against you, you should never start a reciprocal war. Be wiser and do not be rash. Of course, if the child wants, he will always find a reason to blame you for something, but you do not need to help him with your actions. Try to become his friend, but do not be forced upon him. You can sometimes suggest something or advise, but always leave a solution behind it. Do not say, "You need to do this." It's better to say: "You know, I heard that in such a situation ..." Or "I had a similar case and then I decided that ..." Be prepared for the child not to take your advice. Do not need to show that you are offended or even more angry. Remember, this is a conscious or subconscious provocation. So always keep yourself in hand.
Do not bribe
You should never bribe a child. He will not become less jealous of you because you buy expensive gifts. Rather, he will learn to use this and begin to extort more and more, giving nothing in return. So act like you would lead with your own son (daughter) or nephews. You must remember that he does not need your things, he needs a dad.
Undoubtedly, it is easier for women in the situation when the baby does not know his mother. In this case, he simply has nothing to compare. If you have it all, then try to become his mother, but do not impose your love. You need to learn to understand what he really wants, offer his boyfriend entertainment that will be interesting to the child and try to spend as much time as possible three together. And so that in the first place was fun and good baby.