A joint sleep will be very useful for the mother in the first months of the life of a crumb, since he bears several positive moments:
The first is that next to the mother the child will always be at a comfortable temperature, which is very important for the children of the first month of life. At this age, the thermoregulatory system of children is not very perfect, they are often supercooled, and as a result are ill with colds.
The second , helps to find a child a sense of calm and security, he hears the knock of my mother's heart, her breath, warmth, feels her presence and all fears disappear.
The third , the mother, breastfeeding and sleeping all night with him, observed better lactation than the mothers sleeping separately from their children.
Fourth, such a joint dream allows mother to sleep, it's no secret that women during the night have to get up several times to feed the baby.
The fifth , the child, with his mother, sleeps more tightly, and his sleep turns out to be more complete, since a very sleepy mother will start feeding or patting during the time, preventing the premature awakening of the baby from sleep.
Sixth , mothers during lactation, especially in the first months of the child's life are very disturbing, and sleeping with the baby will help many times to reduce the degree of anxiety of the mother.
The seventh , mom and baby sleeping together, usually wake up the same together, which positively affects the mood of both.
Eighth, the risk of sudden child death is greatly reduced when parents and children sleep together.
Depending on the age, the relationship to the place of sleep can vary among children. So at the age of 1 to 6 months, babies sleep well alone in their crib, and by about 1.5 years many babies begin to actively protest against their beds. Parents should not strongly insist on a separate dream, because such a situation can lead to serious psychological trauma and neuroses. This situation is most often due to the fact that at this age the child starts to form various fears, this in turn is closely related to changes in the development of brain areas.
Many experts and just moms believe that the joint sleep of mom and baby is the best option for both. But there are a number of reasons why a child should sleep separately from his parents:
The first is that in a parent's bed a child's risk of suffocating by a mother during sleep increases. The dream of a young mother is very sensitive, nature has arranged it so, but there are situations when the mother takes sedatives or is very tired during the day, and maybe took alcohol, then the sleep becomes strong and the woman can not control herself and the child during sleep, in such cases, the kid must necessarily sleep in his bed.
The second , the parent bed is the place of execution of the conjugal duty and the presence in it of the child somehow imposes restrictions on the sexual life of the parents. Very often, women, because of their fatigue, refuse to fulfill their marital duty, explaining this by the presence of a child in their bed. In some families, the father absolutely has to leave the bed and sleep separately from his wife. All this can become a serious reason for conflicts in the family.
The third , the reason for which it would be better for a child to sleep in his bed is the acquisition of the skill of independent falling asleep. Children who sleep in the same bed with their parents develop a persistent need for a parental presence, this habit will in future bring a lot of trouble and problems not only to the parents, but also to the child himself. For this it is best after 3 years to begin gradual weaning of the baby from sharing sleep with parents.
Fourth, the sleep of some parents who are in the same bed with the baby, become superficial, as a result of which they often do not get enough sleep.
This is actually all the reasons why a child should fall asleep separately from his parents. If you decide to begin to accustom your crumb to a separate dream, then you need to get more patience and wit. Ideally, it is better to wait for the moment when the child himself wants to move to his bed, such a convenient moment can arise at the age of 3-4 years, when the kid tries to look like adults and strives to do everything himself, here at this moment and it is necessary to paint him everything the dignity of a separate crib. Begin the process of weaning from the parental presence should be gradual, for example, during a day's sleep the baby should sleep alone or in his bed, as well as a part of the night he also sleeps in his crib. Some parents put the baby in their bed, and then transfer it to the nursery, this option is suitable in the event that, the baby in the morning will not cry much in search of the missing mother for the night. In order for a grown-up child to have a desire to sleep in his bed, think over the interesting design of his room or bed, the modern market in this area is now very large and can offer many options for interesting design, both beds and rooms in general. In the course can go and distracting maneuvers, for example, instead of a mother for a while can leave a favorite toy of a child or a pet that promises to look after a crumb. Gradually, the time of absence in the room of the mother increases and as a result, the baby himself falls asleep. Leave the light in the room at the child's request, this will help him cope with fears, help control fears.
Beginning to wean a child from a joint sleep should take into account the individual characteristics of the child, the situation in which he is, possible injuries. In any case, you must create a warm, friendly environment for the baby, that he would always feel the support of people close to him.