But, unfortunately, recently in modern society there is a generally not rosy tendency: people began to spend less time at the same table, having dinner and having dinner at different times or even outside the walls of the house. And the number of such families is growing at an alarming rate.
As a rule, dinner is the only chance to get together with the whole family. But, given that now almost in every kitchen "the main decoration of the table" is the TV, most often the members of the family prefer chatting to watching evening TV shows.
To find out what is happening in the soul of the household, what happens in their lives, how they spent the day, one has to think of how to make an event out of a simple ordinary dinner or dinner. Moreover, the event is fascinating and special, with the help of which it is possible not only to rally the family, but also to instill in children a certain value system.
Why does the tradition of joint family meals disappear?
Delicious food, soulful conversation and sonorous laughter - these are the components of a family dinner. But our constant employment does not allow us to assemble the whole family at the same table. But why?Teens see the reason that parents work late, and parents themselves are that their work schedules and the schedule of the day do not match.
Among the other frequently mentioned reasons, one can distinguish "unwillingness to dine together", "unwillingness to interfere too much in matters and control the lives of children" and "too interesting television programs that are simply impossible to miss."
But most often both adults and children say that they are simply "too busy" to have lunch or dinner together. But in order to preserve and unite the family, not to overlook teenage problems and thus avoid possible sad consequences, it is necessary to make great efforts so that joint family meals become a good tradition in every family.
Just start talking with each other
In fact, in order to save many families, to get them out of the swamp of misunderstanding and conflicts, one should not turn to psychoanalysts for help. They just need to gather at a dinner table to calmly and openly discuss current issues.Since the main problem for many families is that they just stop talking to each other.
Frequent trips of parents, meetings with friends, various hobbies of children, all this takes away the precious time that could be spent with the family. But how to prioritize? Most adults easily solve such problems at work, but when it comes to household chores, they are powerless. Although, just as successful work requires effective planning, so the family requires exactly the same careful approach in everything, including the organization of joint family meals.
So, how to make the family more united by means of joint dinners.
Mindful of the fact that a family dinner is not just a joint meal, but also an important condition for family stability, it is necessary to fulfill certain conditions for holding such dinners.
- Plan the day and time of family dinners and dinners, stick to the timetable until joint meals become a tradition. And it is best to plan other important household chores that need to be done together, for a time before or after a family meal. At first, it will not be easy to follow the schedule, but the result will not be long in coming. Start with a more real time - for example, a joint dinner on Sunday - then with time you can choose a few more evenings in the week. Be sure to allocate a certain amount of time for dinner. Since swallowed hastily food is worse digested and digested, which is not the most beneficial effect on both health and general health of the body.
- It's best to dine at a round dining table, but not in front of the TV. Absorbing dinner after watching the show, sitting on the couch with a tray in his hand, is unlikely to talk. And there is nothing surprising in the fact that over the past ten years sales of dining tables have fallen dramatically, because many families simply do not see the need for them.
- Take for the rule in turn to say something important before the start of dinner, giving the floor to the children. For example, thank someone who cooked dinner or did something important for the whole family.
- During lunch, discuss only positive moments and events.
- You can also explain new unfamiliar words to the children and come up with some funny stories where these words are mentioned. Thus, you can have fun and expand the vocabulary of children.
- Try new dishes. After all, day by day we eat the same thing, and to turn lunch into an event, you can cook meals from different parts of the world once a week and together discuss recipes and new taste sensations.
- Where does the food come from? Talk at the table about this. Ask the children if they know where this or that product comes from, how they produce it. These and many other questions will not only help build an interesting conversation, but also identify gaps in knowledge and eliminate them.
- Laugh at dinner! With the help of a joke, you can make an ordinary family dinner more fun and memorable. In the bookstore you can find a collection of anecdotes and jokes, aimed at children of different ages. In addition, it is known that laughter contributes to digestion.