Kids ask a lot of questions

"Everything that is unknown is terribly interesting." That's for sure! Kids ask a lot of questions, because they are just starting cognitive activity, they are interested in everything. You need encyclopedic knowledge and ... patience.

It comes at all at different times, this magical age "what? as? what for? and why?". Someone in two or three years, someone at five, but the majority - about four. And the stormy manifestations of global curiosity are coming to an end about six or seven years ... or never. It's like who is lucky. Some, having got to school, get a lot of answers to questions they did not even ask, and stop asking. Others continue to search for answers, but in a different way: they dig around on the Internet, read up to the holes of the encyclopedia, conduct experiments and build their own hypotheses ... Which scenario do you like best? Probably the second. To curiosity of the child has developed into a research interest, you need to know a lot and do more.

Ideal age

One hundred thousand "why" appearing in the head of your karapuza is a sign that he is ready for full cognitive activity. By three - five years, most children have already formed physical, mental, mental and speech tools for this. Now the baby is able to formulate what interests him. And the nature of communication with adults becomes different: a change in practical joint activity comes theoretical ranting. At this age the child begins to understand that many objects are not as simple as they thought, and try to get into the essence of things, asking many questions. But his own experience and knowledge he is not enough, so he is looking for an authoritative source of information. The main authority for him is you. Therefore, an avalanche of questions falls upon you. Answer! Meet alternative sources, learn to find facts and data everywhere. Remember: at 6-7 years a person forms the basis for the idea of ​​the world, the abilities are opened and clearly manifested, the stereotype of behavior and learning is laid. That is, the core of the personality is formed.

Evolution of the question

At first, the kid formulates questions in the style of "this I just say, I reflect." As a rule, he does not ask directly, but thinks aloud about the object or fact that interested him. "And why do sparrows fly? Want to see everything? "The little bit does not require an answer, but for mom and dad it's a signal: the house has got a why. Immediately begin to respond. It is not necessary to talk about the evolution of the animal kingdom and the structure of the wing. Time for this will come. Now it is important to simply support the conversation: "I think they really want to fly. And they are also looking for food. " If after the first answer a lot of clarifying questions fell, everything is in order. Kid to ask many questions is necessary to develop as it is necessary.

Not without a hint

Not all "why" is a consequence of the cognitive needs of the karapuza. Sometimes they talk about what bothers the child, about his inner problems. The fact that the kryotuli is not calmly on the soul is indicated by meaningless questions, in your opinion, which he repeats countless times, even when absolute clarity was introduced. "Why the bed?" Asks the baby. "What kind of nonsense are you talking about!" - Mom answers and continues to do her own business. Or: "Where is our grandmother?" - For the fifth time in a row she repeats a crumb. "I told you: at the dacha. Today will come. Enough about this! "- anger is in every word. Wait to get angry. Try to decipher the child's promises. In the first case, you hear the following: "Pay attention to me," "Let's play!" Or even "Do you love me?" In the second: "I want to talk about my grandmother. I missed her "or" Do you see me? "Strong persistence testifies also to increased anxiety. The crumb must be heard that nothing has changed in the last five minutes, that everything is fine and the grandmother will definitely come. How to be? Give up all the work and take time for some reason. Catch up, read, play, talk about the grandmother, after all. What kind of a dacha she has, what's growing there, on what car she will come. Kids ask many questions simply to establish themselves in your love for them. Return the harmony to the baby's heart.

About benefits of answers

Why do you need to be very serious about the harassment? Well, that you are the source of knowledge, in some ways even the engine of personal progress is crumbs, you already know. But it turns out, answering the questions of the baby, you also satisfy his need for respect! Like this! The fact is that a child who has torn himself away from the usual support for visualization, having got into the realm of speculative reasoning, feels extremely insecure. And any inattention from the parents, mockery or unwillingness to respond offend and anger. But when mum or pan are included in the conversation, they listen carefully and explain everything, it seems to him that he even grew up. After all, his self-esteem grew. By the way, honesty of parents also contributes to this, who are not ashamed to admit that they have far from encyclopedic knowledge. And they propose to look for answers together. This line of behavior is cool. First, the baby will increase confidence in you. Secondly, the karapuz will understand that it is not the holy pots that are burned and he too can become intelligent, like adults. Thirdly, the child simply learns about other ways of extracting information, and this is already a real investment in his future. And further. Infinite "why?" - a barometer of confidence crumbs toward you. While they are, he believes in your intelligence and ability to explain everything in the world, to help in everything. You are a reliable rear and a support, you can come running with a problem and find a solution ... A weighty argument to spend your time and energy on the search for truth? Curiosity is easy to destroy. You know the recipe: do not answer, brush aside, laugh at "stupidity," emphasize "absurdity." And how to stimulate? Ask yourself. Sometimes it's just that, without a reason: "Why do you need a nose?" Why do you have white teeth? Where does the hippopotamus live? "And while the baby is thinking over the answers, rest and gather your thoughts before the new siege of the pacifier in the form of new questions.

Forward, for the truth!

Not all questions need to be answered. It is much more useful and interesting to find them all together.

1. Answer the question with a question. Not always, but often. A good option is "What do you think?", "What do you think about this?"

2. Take into consideration all the hypotheses of the baby. Even the most fantastic. And put forward: sometimes pushing, sometimes provocative. "You say the bunny wears a fur coat to make it warm? Or maybe he just likes the coloring? "

3. Argue, discuss, ask for help from various sources of information. You remember: in a dispute, truth is born. It is necessary that the child is aware of this. Then he will learn not to be satisfied with the small, but to seek out the essence of things. And this is a guarantee that your baby asks many questions with benefit. And why will remain why ... adult and important.