A priori, a man always wants a beautiful woman. And if suddenly he does not want it, it means that either the woman is not beautiful enough, or this man is impotent. Only a woman can have "these days", she can get tired from a hard working day, she can have a headache. And for men, by definition, this should not be! Agree that this is absurd? But many women do not think so.
In general, there are reasons for the rejection of the cutoff both partners and they can even be quite objective. What do circumstances compel men to give up intimacy?
Not in the mood
If you want your partner to be always trouble-free, then you better choose a vibrator. Because the mood of a woman is very changeable and it happens that a man does not have sex. The reasons for this may be mass. But this does not mean that a man has stopped loving you.
He is tired
Sometimes for men of a post-busy day's work the only desire is to dine and go to bed. Even the kind of beloved in sexy lingerie and stockings will not set it up for playful development. And we women should respect this desire, because we also have such days when we just want to hug and fall asleep.
Tomorrow will be a hard day
Another possible reason for not having sex is a hard day tomorrow at work. For example, the delivery of an important project or the conclusion of a serious transaction. If your man is always distracted, relaxed and cheerful during sex, then the sex for your paratut will only be useful. Also, he can relax with a computer or TV, in this case do not put much pressure on him. The man is an earner, therefore he takes it seriously. Another option for such an evening - he will be here at work, without being distracted by anything extraneous, will be prepared, in other words. In this case, it certainly should not be distracted, but rather prepare him a delicious tea.
Very busy
This reason is a bit like the first, but with the difference that a man can and wants, but not. Ieto "can not" of course only in his understanding. With this reason, you can either reconcile, or, conversely, help him relax. Carefully explain that after sex, it will only be better and improve his mood. You can at the same time help him deal with the working moments, if any. He will appreciate it, believe me.
Drinking alcohol
Often, alcohol and sex, especially if you have met relatively recently. For a couple who live together for more than one year, alcohol will only promote intimacy in small doses. Large doses of alcohol harm not only sex, but health. At a certain stage of intoxication, your man will necessarily want a sex, but you probably will not like it.
I got sick
Do not believe it, but the men sometimes even have a "headache." He can also catch a bad cold - this gives you discomfort and there is a desire to just lie or sleep. It is clear that in such a state he certainly will not want to make love to you. You must be caring and loving. But if your man is too often a "hurts", it is worth thinking about and discussing it with him. The main thing - do not be silent, Zataivobid.
Self-satisfaction
Now we will discuss with you the more serious reasons for refusing sex, which is probably more subjective. There is such a type of men who can not abandon the habit of masturbating, acquired as early as adolescence. The cause of self-satisfaction may be ordinary laziness. Because sex for men - this is only a mechanical process of pleasure, which still requires pretty much "sweat", and not only for yourself. Therefore, such a man thinks, and why bother even for a partner, if he can get this pleasure himself. After all, after such a sex worker, you do not need to see you home, call a taxi ... And you can just fall asleep, turning to the wall, without talking to anyone.
With such a partner, you also need to stipulate everything. Try to show how you are most pleasant. Spend a little time and "teach" it to the one that gives you the greatest pleasure and ultimately leads to orgasm - it will be for him a supreme reward. The man again feels himself necessary and will understand that masturbation is not an easy way out.
Loss of interest in sexual activity
This psychological problem is also possible, the cause of which can be moral and physical waste, and sometimes there are a number of failures in the intimate plan. If you have not had sex for quite some time and will be unforeseen, then it's definitely time to decide something. You can talk to your husband, try to find out what is wrong and what way out he sees from this situation or turn to a sex therapist. If you value your marriage, then the problem must be solved together.
Does not excite a partner or wife
If after the wedding you have gained excess weight, do not watch your appearance, go in a dirty robe, then remember that this all can repel the desire of sex with you. Your man wants sex, but, alas, carried you. In this case, he will start buying erotic magazines, watch porn, av worst case will get a mistress. To change the situation, you must remember that after the stamp in the passport or the beginning of a joint life in a civil marriage, nothing changes. A woman should also continue to monitor herself, be in shape and remain as beautiful and well-groomed.
Just does not want
It happens that the man is quite healthy, he is doing well at work, at home beautiful and sexy, with the potency is all right, and still do not want sex.
It is possible that your man - asexual and the most intimate activity for him is the soul talk. He just wants to protect himself from sex, as from something imposed by a platonic relationship. If your man is just like that, and you are not asexual, then be prepared for the fact that you will have to try hard to "return" him to a normal sexual life. If the cases of refusal are separate, then there is no need to panic. And if everything is the opposite, then you need to talk with a man, only without insults and scandals. Or to address to the expert.
In this article, many of the advice lies in conversations - they help you in most cases. Because the misunderstandings among couples also lead to such situations. Talk and work out a strategy for solving your problems together, although this will not be easy and can sometimes take a lot of time, but for a loving person of complexity and time is nothing.