Guys are much stronger than girls, concerned about their sexual abilities. The instinct of competition in this direction is manifested as clearly nowhere. Subconsciously, almost every man wants to surpass his competitors in sexual abilities, in this respect the girl is more attracted to her than all her previous partners, to satisfy her better and more fully than anyone else. On men's complexes make a huge profit, comparable to oil revenues, certain companies, which once again proves the importance of this issue for the male. And this is not surprising, because traditionally they are considered to be active partners who direct the process and therefore bear greater responsibility for it than passive ones. The first time for them is the measure of their masculinity and is akin to the first and especially important exam, on which almost all destiny depends. Every girl should understand this, otherwise accidentally can become the culprit of the failure of this "exam". Successful first intimacy, as a rule, promotes success with any other girls, which is very important for a guy.
For example, some potential men, being overly concerned about whether they can successfully carry out the first act or not, suffer from excitement and uncertainty that they will be able to achieve their goal. The closer the act, the stronger the experience. Subsequently, this is affected by one very unpleasant phenomenon, always arising inappropriately, at the most crucial moment, which is very difficult to combat - the syndrome of anxious expectation of sexual failure (hereinafter - STOSN). He says that at the most important moment, when it's time to start copulation, the erection disappears, which can be preserved during prelude or restored after the termination of unsuccessful attempts to start sexual intercourse. With each failure, the violation will be aggravated and can reach the point that suffering from this guy will start avoiding any close contacts with girls, piling with complexes, contrived problems, developing psychological impotence. Especially dangerous is the occurrence of this problem at the first intimacy, since in this case it can be extremely difficult or even impossible to cure it without the intervention of sexologists or psychotherapists.
Not all girls understand that for a guy it means first sex, how tangible it affects all subsequent sexual activity. Therefore, too tactless a girl can cause STOS, even for a not too excited guy, and for this there may be just one tart phrase about his masculine dignity or ability to please her. If she reproaches the reproach that the guy does not have a good erection, then it can substantially aggravate the problem, after which only an experienced specialist will be able to save him from the violation.
On the contrary, the girl should support the guy morally, mark any, even the most insignificant success (example: "You are good at it, go on!"), And if you have sexual experience - to show some activity, then he will not just gain confidence, but will change significantly, because from how the first sex will pass, not only the psychosexual sphere of a guy's life depends, but also the evaluation of his abilities in any other spheres of life. It happens that modest, insecure guys who have successfully begun their sexual life, gain confidence, spiritual strength, relax in communication, become successful businessmen, power leaders and, of course, passionate lovers. The effect is in most cases, of course, not very significant, but not insignificant. Everyone knows that girls after defloration change their character; this is also typical of guys.
From all of the above, you can understand how important it is for girls to understand what the first sex means for a guy, because very much depends on them. All of us once did something for the first time, therefore, experienced girls should be sympathetic to inexperienced guys, in every possible way to help them with the first sexual intercourse.