Entering into a more serious relationship, it becomes clear why lovers cuss so often, and, recalling the complaints of girlfriends, I could not understand what they lack. Now I am at the center of all these events, and I can share everything directly from the scene, giving you my feelings, thoughts and conclusions. The first days we get a lot of attention, And now I recently realized why we often argue with our mates. I understood the mistakes of women when dealing with men . What not to do, and how best to do, and what can be if you make a mistake. But we are all people, so that we all are capable of making mistakes.
Because the first attention to our magnificent person is given an indecent amount of attention, and when we give ourselves completely to our adorer, then he does not lose interest, no, he simply starts distracting from us with other equally important matters. What can be more important than us, you think. Nothing, just us, because the light did not come together, dear women, here you are for the sake of your loved one, skip the massage in the spa-salon, or manicure, or styling - no! You will pay even more attention to these processes, so that just what our loved one would see, how we sparkle, we are ready to polish and polish for days, only let him see only our brilliance, and nobody else! And let other men begin to envy us that we belong to him without a trace.
So, when we begin to divide the attention of a loved one with less important events and objects, we become very spiteful and resentful, believing that only we should have attention, and no one and nothing else. We begin to be jealous starting with my mother and brother and ending with a screwdriver and a nut, we begin to inflate our glamor-colored, transparent pink gleam of the sponge, and tell him that he does not like us.
Error 1 ! We begin to instill in him that he does not like us, and so after a while the suggestion works, and he really ceases to love us. Any person is capable of suggestion and hypnosis, and any person is just as capable of succumbing to this hypnosis. And you yourself destroy your own happiness, telling him that he does not love you with tears in his eyes.
Error 2 ! You are not patient. Endure the time when he is not nursing with you, but with his car. If he does not give you time, and does not tell you "forgive my dear (dear, my baby, my sun and the like), but simply says" I can not today, I need to fix the car with Vasya ", this does not mean that he you do not like, it means that he needs to repair the car with Vasya. Do something, instead of eating your brain with nonsense like "he does not like me and does not pay attention to me."
Error 3 ! You are not the only person on earth close to him. He still has a mother, a brother and a bunch of nephews. They also crave his attention, just like you, so learn to share with his family, because he knows them more and longer than you. One of my friends complained that her friend did not go with her to the cinema on her and on his day off, but went to help his brother, build a house. What is more important? A movie or a house? You need to be able to sacrifice something for the sake of love. Perhaps he sacrificed the day he was going to spend with his beloved, but after all his brother asked for help in building the house. It's more serious than a movie.
Error 4 ! You are too selfish. You always pull the blanket over, picking it away from your loved ones. You take away from him his favorite pursuits, imposing their hobbies. Any man likes to watch football with friends and drink beer, and instead he goes shopping with you, or goes to visit your friend, or something, something that you like. And if he offers you to do his favorite occupation, you wrinkling your nose, writhing in a grimace "I'm going to vomit now" shout "not for anything", imagine what you will if he screams the same way on the idea you proposed, to spend time with your favorite pastime.
Error 5 ! For his caprices of a little princess or a magnificent goddess, we do not see the desire of our man, thereby turning him into a slave from a loved one. You need a man who will perform male actions, and not one that fulfills all your desires. He's not an old man, Hottabych, that would tear his last hair to fulfill your petty wishes. Yes, for you it is not a shallow wish - to go to the store and buy a new blouse, but look at it objectively, and you, I think, will understand everything.
Here we complain that our men do not understand us at all, and do not know what we need. And we ourselves know what is necessary? My desires and moods can change every ten minutes, and I understand that my beloved can not adapt to them and under every change. Learn to understand your loved one, look at everything objectively, lower your selfish whims a little lower and you will be able to see it. This will not go unnoticed, and he will love you even more. Any sign of his attention I perceive with admiration, albeit feigned, but with admiration. No matter how ridiculous these attentions are, they go from the heart, if you have been together for a long time, and not for "fending off." I will cite one more example, again, my friend demanded, literally this word, one expensive hair straightener for her birthday, but did not receive it. Instead, she received a certificate in the underwear shop. Well, there was no money for the guy at that time, he had already organized her birthday, and led her girlfriends along with her naturally to a bowling club. She was not that upset, she was furious. And everything was choking and choking with her demands, fortunately for her he was a tough nut to crack, or maybe he just loves her very much, but they are still together, and she still needs her rectifier. No wonder they say "do not look a gift horse in the mouth" and "expect the worst, but hope for the best", the wisdom of the people, acquired by the ages, is always right, do not criticize his gifts, but just hint in advance what you want from him, but do not wait that he will understand your hint. And then, it will be much more pleasant for you to get what you so expected from him, if he understands, of course.
Still, our men are so ridiculous and clumsy when they love. They are afraid to do worse by doing badly. Well, I can tell my lover when he brings me a cheap rose just without any reason, and when he looks me in the eyes full of love for me, and says "darling, I wanted to make you feel good." How can I tell him that this rose is cheap and ugly, if it symbolizes his love. Yes, he could choose the best, but after all, men are completely devoid of taste when it comes to a gift for a loved one.
The main rule of successful relationships, which repeats all women's magazines of our days "you need to understand the men that they would understand us." Love your men, and they will love you more than you love him.