But like everyone else: family, home, work, children, husband ....
But why does the same thought gnaw you the last time that something is wrong with your family. You start to think about it, you start looking at your husband, maybe he is not "that" ... And it's so worried about you, it becomes clear as a day. A husband with whom you have lived so many years, with whom you grow up children, with whom, as they say, they ate a pud of salt and about which, as you thought, you know everything, suddenly changed a lot. Or maybe not suddenly, just a very long time you have not carefully looked at him and do not understand why my husband compares me to other women.
This is the first time years of living together, you wanted to please your husband, warn every desire, catch, every word of it. And then ... then - got used to it, got used to it. There were children demanding attention and you all your love and affection, all attention was thrown on them. Well, what about the husband, then her husband, what's left.
And now, you suddenly saw that your husband lives, as if, his own separate life. You have your own life, the usual and familiar for a woman - home, family, work, children. And he has his own, also a house, work, children, family .... That's just where in this family is your place, you could not understand.
You have become more attentive to your husband, to note where and what he does, what he says. And I saw and found out that you are very much strange and interesting. Very often in her conversations the husband makes comparisons with your old friend and, moreover, the comparison is not in your side. With whom, with whom to compare, but not with a girlfriend, which, as far as you do not change the memory of her husband and did not really like it. She did not like him, you know for sure. He did not like it when she came to visit you, and did not like to visit her house. And suddenly such praise in her direction, then she knows how to do better, then this. And if the girlfriend was not married and did not have three children, then all these praises could be counted for the signs of attention from your husband, and they could become the reason for jealousy.
And then went even worse, her husband began to praise a neighbor from a neighboring entrance. He, it turns out, met her by chance, when he was walking with his son in the park. She asked for help, and her husband helped her. She and her daughter invited him and her son to his house. They became friends. This acquaintance was the reason for your excitement? Well, you have to admit, there's something to worry about.
The husband tells you about what a wonderful woman neighbor, what an interesting companion she is, while hinting that with you he already forgot when he spoke for the last time, except about children and the amount of spent money. It seems to you that this is one of the main reasons why my husband compares me to another woman.
The spouse often met with a neighbor, walking in the park with her son. After these meetings, he returned home excited and began to tell you about this woman. About how wonderful he is, and how she can do this and that.
Despite all this, his behavior in the family remained the same. Always on time from work, weekends with children with you, at home everything you need for au pair does. Signs that he is cheating on you, no, no.
It even began to seem to you that the husband became more attentive. Staying with you alone is more affectionate. But his attention and affection, after his comparison with you neighbor, became a drop of oil in the fire.
You endured all these chanting and dithyrambs of a neighbor for a long time, but one day she could not stand it and she expressed everything to her husband. All about what you thought about this one. You have to be honest at least in front of you, you did not say, and you rolled up a scandal and offered to your husband, "... since it's so wonderful, so get out to her. Why are you living with me? "Is it not so?
That's exactly how it was. And I do not want to stand by your side. In what happened in your family, only you and no one else are to blame.
Of course, in what happened, there is also the fault of her husband. He should not have been, thus attracting your attention to what your wife experiences in this way. But I think that he is just tired of living, playing secondary roles in your life. He again wanted your attention and love. And he could think of nothing better to regain your attention, how to make you feel jealous.
And he succeeded, is not it? Although you probably think that this is not jealousy at all, but just a feeling of resentment. You should be so wonderful - a kind and affectionate mother, a wonderful housewife, an artisan and a cook, is compared with a neighbor. Probably, there was something to compare? And you did not try to think about the question, but maybe your husband is really right. Perhaps, you did, and the truth is all right, but not as much as your husband would have liked.
Of course, he needed to talk to you. To sit and remember how they lived in the first years of your marriage. To say how good he was then next to you. The fact that he is very sorry that in your relationship now so little of that heat, not to mention love. And yet, that he really wants to bring everything back and warmth and love. But he did not do it, but did what he did.
Well, and you, you! Why did not you tell him that it's completely unpleasant for you to listen when you praise someone, while diminishing your dignity. Why were you silent? Throw in the face of her husband, so he was cleaned up to another, good, could, but could not talk humanly.
Or maybe it was not jealousy? Maybe you just do not love him?
Remember, because when you married him, because you loved. She loved and wanted to live in love all her life. Look back, look at life, lived together, remember how well you were together, until you let life, seize all your good relationships and your love. And if the road to you is still your family, your love. If you really need your husband, maybe you should reconsider your views on life. To turn again your attention to your husband, surround him with the same caress and care. And believe my experience, your husband will not start dating in parks with single women, they will not be praised to the skies. And if you are compared to someone, only in your favor.