And what about the reverse? Advice of a woman who knows a lot, and possibly raised more than one child. It is important to simply understand: your mother-in-law advises not because of the harmfulness or to simply annoy you. She loves your baby no less than you and her husband, and she wants at least somehow to be involved in happiness, called "child." Details learn in the article on the topic "A mother-in-law climbs in the upbringing of a child".
This is especially true for single or retired women. And if you, at least one day try to leave the original, still unsupported negative before the arrival of your mother-in-law and try to be with her "on the same wavelength," it is possible that you yourself will be surprised at the results of this day! And how at heart it will be pleasant - though believe, even check it out! Therefore, our advice: listen to the advice of your mother-in-law, but rather ask her what you really want. Only a very desperate and self-confident girl can, having cast off any fear, say: "I can handle everything myself!" Perhaps, and will cope, but not with everything. And what do you say when, after a day's pursuit of the image of an ideal mother and mistress, you'll fall into bed in the evening and know that tomorrow it will all happen again? And this is on condition that you will feel good, and if postpartum pain, dizziness, apathy? So why give up real help when you do not need to ask for it - everyone is just waiting for your permission. Let the assistants come at least a couple of hours a day.
Believe me, both sides will win. And because you get used to the good quickly, perhaps very soon your mother-in-law will become for you a constant, kind friend in matters of caring for the baby. By the way, it is in this that she is your ally! Ask her, for example, to make dinner. She already knows that this help is not a whit less than help in caring for a child. By the way, not the fact that on the way to your home mother-in-law, only, and sorts out in fantasies, what would it be such a delicious topic for you to talk. She is now worried about the same problems as you: is there enough milk for a baby, how was the night, is it enough to gain weight? And do not let the confused dishes in the sink, or the missed fifth floor washing day, confuse you. So again it is worth repeating: do not hesitate to ask for help and accept help! This reason is simple, understandable and smoothly intersects with the previous one. And then my mother-in-law, who only wails that she at one time got up at 6 am, saw her husband, set crystal cleanliness, and when the child slept during the day, she also had time to wash, clean, and, of course, bake a mountain of pies! Of course, against the backdrop of such a prehistory, it's simply shameful to go to bed before the eyes of this ideal! Do not you think about it! And go to rest without a shadow of embarrassment. Simply because the baby needs a cheerful mother, with a fresh mind, ready to understand and react on time to the needs of the child. Smart mother-in-law will understand everything. Well, if you do not understand ... Not all your views should coincide! Take it as a fact and relax!
And in conclusion, I want to repeat once again all known trivial truths, which we so often forget in the turmoil of days. Family is not only husband, wife and children. These are grandparents, uncles and aunts, grandchildren, nephews and even just close friends. We all love each other and wish only good. And to build good, good relations without communication is impossible. Therefore, more often meet, go to each other's guests, take each other's strengths and weaknesses, not trying to prove something or remake. It's wonderful that all people are different. And before you say the final "No!" To the offer of help from the mother-in-law, remember that she is the woman who bore, gave birth, brought up your beloved person. A child who now peacefully snuffles in the crib. And is it possible that a woman who, just like you are now, doubted, did not sleep at night, brought up your man, did not deserve the happiness of communicating with your baby? Now we know what to do if our mother-in-law climbs into raising a child.