My boyfriend refuses to have sex before the wedding

In the modern world, no one is surprised by sex before the wedding. This is more of a norm than an exception to the rules. True, there are still girls who follow the tradition, remaining clean and innocent until the wedding night. But the fact that there are the same guys, it's very difficult to believe. Almost all women are confident that from a certain age a man simply can not live without sex. So, faced with such a man, a lady may simply not believe, especially if he is not seventeen. But nevertheless, strange as it may sound, the guys who believe in the first sex after the wedding do exist. And if this was your man, involuntarily there are questions about how it is normal. After all, as is known, for men, sex is more important than for girls. Many doctors say that without sex a guy can simply earn various diseases. What can you do if your young man is sure that you can only have sex after the wedding? How to respond to his behavior and is it worth trying to change the attitude of a young man to sex?


Causes

A man does not have sex before the wedding is often not because he has some complexes or fears. It's just that notorious people are trying to lose their virginity as soon as possible and start practicing. Here the matter is quite different. Most likely, the young man is just so brought up, and the idea that he should make love with only one and only after, as they legitimize relations, is so ingrained in his brain that he simply considers any other behavior to be wrong. Such men do not succumb to the public opinion and fashion. They do not care what others say. When such a guy is told that he is abnormal and such behavior is unnatural for a man, he will never be justified and ashamed. For such a man his behavior is not something inadequate, and even more so shameful. He is proud that he sees in love only the sensuous side, and physical gives a lot less attention. By the way, do not assume that this man has a problem with sex. In fact, firstly, he does not know what this is in fact, so it's easier for him to resist. He just was not used to constantly getting sexual pleasure, like other young people who lead a full sex life with their partners. And the fact that he does not have sex does not mean that he does not want it. Just such a man deliberately pacifies his desires and does not allow himself to go to them on the water.

Most often, such people are believers who are living under the laws of the Bible. For them and their societies, such behavior is quite normal. Simply, we, ordinary people, seldom have such a relationship, so this behavior is for us at least a novelty, and even a real deviation. For believing people, sex before marriage is actually considered something forbidden. Year after year they impose the idea that it is so wrong to exchange it for many, dirty and stupid. The fact that a man needs sexual experience and that there really exists such a thing as sexual incompatibility, such people do not think at all. They are confident that love can conquer all, and they will be able to adapt themselves to each other by trial and error. In addition, such people do not talk much about the principle of sex, so they are not aware of most of the nuances. Accordingly, it turns out that about this process they have quite a curvature, which people absolutely do not want to change.

By the way, such a worldview can not only believing the people. Of course, among ordinary people these are the opponents of sex before the wedding, a lot less, but they also are. Often these guys are simply disappointed in many girls. They have serious intentions for the ladies, they want to build families with them, raise children, but they see that women have become too windy, capable of betraying, simply speaking, walking. For such a man, gradually before the wedding becomes unpleasant, as he thinks about who this girl has slept before and with whom she will sleep after. And in general, having sex, she is experiencing some feelings or she needs sex solely for the sake of sex. The difference from other guys who have never worried about such questions, these individuals really experience. This behavior of the representatives of the beautiful sex disgusts them and infringes on their male dignity. The man is uncomfortable with the thought that he is one of many, and not the best, the most beloved, the most skillful. That's why, even having sexual experience, at a certain moment, such a guy can refuse sex and wish that it happened only after a wedding. Thus, the guy checks the girl, wanting to make sure that she really needs him, and not sex. Usually such statements can be heard by women, but because of the behavior of many girls, this really reflects on some men who are very sensitive to feelings, are themselves faithful and experience treason extremely painful.

This not normal?

Yes, most likely, we can say that the rejection of sex dosvade - this is really abnormal. Despite some kind of romance of such behavior and the belief that a person loves you really, but does not meet just for the sake of sex, all the same, this attitude to the experience of the sex does not lead to anything good. Firstly, a guy and a girl can really have a sexual incompatibility. And if a man has absolutely no experience, then to fix the current situation it will be much more complicated than it seems. In addition, a guy can simply earn a complex. If he does not get anything in bed, if he will understand that the girl is not satisfied, then in time she will begin to feel defective and may simply lose interest in sex.

If the guy is already clearly over twenty, and he never had a sex, then it really can affect his health. It is proved that a very long abstinence can affect the erections and ultimately an absolutely healthy person can become an impotent. Unfortunately, people who are confident of their principles, do not want to pay attention to facts at all. They live by their ideals and do not want to hear anyone. Therefore, if a man stubbornly and dolgovzderzhivaetsya of sex, then instead of later living his whole life in love, most likely, he will live it in disappointment.

If your guy is exactly that, then the best way out of the situation will be a wedding. You are unlikely to persuade him, and to delay the time, in general, and there is no sense, because he obviously loves you, because such men do not begin to meet just like that. The question is, do you like it? In the case where your answer is "yes", the problem disappears by itself. If you can not answer accurately, then, perhaps, it is worthwhile to analyze your feelings again and decide whether it is worth to torture yourself and him or to part better, because this is not your person. If you still want to be with him, then be ready for what you really have to endure before the wedding and after it you will be able to face many sexual problems. And then the main thing to have patience, understanding and not to condemn the guy for his views and principles.