When a man falls in love, it seems to him that his beloved is perfect. But some time passes, and we begin to notice the flaws and shortcomings of another person. It often happens that putting a favorite high bar, the girl begins to demand him change from him. But is she doing the right thing in this case and does she not require too much from the guy?
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It happens that looking at another person, we see him more potential and opportunities than he does. Because of this, women begin to ask men to do what they do not want. This can be a variety of requests: change the style, cut or release hair, change work, get higher education and so on. Demanding this, often a girl wishes her loved one only good. But one is not a perfect day, he begins to talk about the fact that she wants too much from him. And who of them is right?
In fact, in this situation there are no rightists and incompletely wrong. Everyone wants that those whom we cherish, could become special, the best, the most intelligent. But on the other hand, wanting and demanding this, we do not always think about it, but does this need the person? After meeting with him, the girl saw what he was like. She knew that, for example, he likes to wear sports suits or he banally forgets to wash the head. But at first it suited her, and then suddenly began to strain. Of course, everything is explained by the fact that the more a person you love, the more you want to change it for the better. But on the other hand, when a girl behaves like a young man, he begins to seriously think about the fact that he is simply not worthy. If he is not the standard that she wants to create, is she tortured and tortured? Not every woman understands that the things and demands that seem to her petty, for a man can be very serious and important, and one day he will simply tire of breaking himself. Even if he is an intelligent potential programmer, but at the same time he likes to work as a trainer, it does not mean that a woman will do better if she forces him to drop his favorite job and go for the one that she considers more suitable for her young man. We often find it very easy to decide for another person, which is better for him. But we do not think about what makes it happier. At such moments a man begins to talk about the fact that a woman needs too much from him.
In fact, when the ladies constantly want some changes from their ladies, if they obey unquestioningly, then as a result women are frustrated. Because breaking himself, the man becomes unhappy, and he can give the woman what she received initially. That is, hypothetically throwing a job driver, which he spent six hours a day and walked there with joy, and changing it to work as a programmer, where he sits for nine hours of it makes him sick of what he does, the guy becomes withdrawn, eternally tired and angry. And when the girl starts to ask him why he did it, why he does not spend enough time with her and why he stopped enjoying life, he can easily answer that she herself does not know what she wants. After demanding changes from him, she had to understand that she would receive not only good results, but also bad results. And in this situation, the man will be absolutely right.
Therefore, each time demanding something from the guy, first of all, imagine a similar situation, but already in relation to his beloved. How would you respond to such demands, and what would happen in your life if you changed it in accordance with the wishes of the young man? Very often, these equations help to understand that some requirements should not be advanced, because they break not only the character of a person, but also change his attitude towards you.
Not all requirements are bad
But still speaking about the requirements, you can not claim that all that women ask from men is bad. There are also those requirements that a lady may well present to her young man. This can be almost everything, not relating to his personal changes. For example, any woman who has a common life with a man can demand help from him. There is nothing terrible or terrible in this. The opinion that a guy must be solely an earner, and a girl a housewife, is a vestige of the past, to which lazy people justify themselves. When both men work, the man must understand that the girl is also tired and she also wants to sit in front of the TV or computer, and not run to the kitchen, while simultaneously grabbing the cleaning and cleaning. Therefore, such requirements may well be presented by the ladies. And if they arouse a man, it's worth thinking about how much he loves you. After all, a guy who feels sincere feelings, first of all, wants to do everything to make a beloved woman feel happy. And torn between the washing, cleaning and cooking, happiness is unlikely to experience.
The girl has the right to demand that the guy has enough time for her. But, of course, do not go too far in this stick. If a woman wants a man to be with her constantly and only with her, forgetting at the same time his friends and interests - it's wrong. Everyone should have a personal space, even if this is the most beloved person.
Another requirement that a girl has the right to put forward a man is a refusal to drink alcoholic beverages. Of course, it is not about those cases when a guy drinks after drinking a bottle of beer and coming home sober helps the girl or just spends time. Such requirements are advanced when a man systematically consumes alcohol with friends or himself. At the same time, he can think that he is not an alcoholic, because, for example, he brings money to the house and does not make scandals. But if he really can not spend without alcohol and a couple of days, the girl has the right to demand to stop and even threaten the separation. Unfortunately, many people drink in the modern world and are clearly not limited to a single bottle of beer. Therefore, quite a large part of men consider this a stupid exaggeration, but in fact, everything is much worse than it imposes. What most guys drink and a considerable number of girls, does not justify, does not justify, but only testifies to the degradation of society. Therefore, if your guy does not understand why you are clearly not delighted, because every day he comes with a fume and not sober, then you need to think about whether he will be able to really stop it. If not, is it worth continuing the relationship?