Time changes not only persons, but also people, considerably time can affect and relations in pair. Remember 2001: could anyone then have imagined that the golden couple of Hollywood Brad Pee and Jennifer Aniston parted completely and irrevocably? And the hooligan Liam Gallagher of Oasis and the actress Nicole Appleton will still be together? Most of us, of course, try every day to analyze their relationship with the boyfriend in order to be able to realize: but will we be happy together? But often this analysis is based on the most obvious things like: does he respect our opinion, is he ready to support in a difficult moment, whether he likes to visit our grandmother and wants to have children. But we do not notice what is hidden, and in fact it can play a major role in what our future will be like. Of course, we foresee that the wedding, the birth of children and a career will greatly change the alignment of forces in our young family. However, not only this will affect it.
Fatalism and adrenalineWhat does it mean? Hold on tight! The next ten years your life will resemble a roller coaster. And this is exactly what you both want: each of you values adrenaline above stability. Instead of stopping and starting to solve problems, you choose a fatalistic approach: let them complicate themselves, or ... It is better to burn out than to smolder - Kurt Cobain's slogan is used in love.
Why will you be together? You will be too absorbed in the momentary experience: to go to the crater of the volcano. To quarrel, standing at the crater of the volcano, make up, stand the crater of the volcano, have sex at the crater ... If apart from adrenaline dependence you are united also by love, outbursts of anger will not end with growing apart. After all, your desire to quarrel will be a huge desire to reconcile.
Why can you break up? If something that is hidden by a strong passion, not reinforced, your relationship is under threat. The problems that you will ignore will come back again and again. And the most serious test will be the moment when one of you, at last, will grow up, the adrug will still want to have fun.
How to save your love? The earlier you start talking serious things, the better. Let each of you make a list of things that you can not imagine your life without. Indicate life values - children, marriage, career plans. Be honest, do not fantasize. Then compare your own letters. Yes, the idea of children and the problems associated with them can spoil the mood. But if you want to spend all your life with this man, you need to learn to be open with each other.
Mind and feelings
What does it mean? Relax, the next 10 years in the company will set this man just fine. First, your relationship is incredibly strong foundation: you know how to talk and negotiate, do not be afraid to raise serious topics. Secondly, between you there is no competition and the desire to show the other that he is better, and it's just great.
Why will you be together? Help honesty and a realistic view of things: you foresee possible difficulties, and therefore they will never take you by surprise. In addition, shovel skeletons into the closet, as most couples prefer to do - not your method.
Why can you break up? Your passion for planning can lead to a feeling that life has become too measured, that there is nothing fantastic with which of you will happen, and as a result, you or a partner can rebel against the nagging harmony and go peddling.
How to save your love? You will be surprised, but ... you need to learn to quarrel for a while. Do something spontaneously, do it without deliberate nonsense, and some things should not be talked about (there must be a mystery in a woman). Remember that two people can never (and will not) spend their whole lives only in the leg - the unexpected unwanted actions of a partner will not allow you to be disappointed. And also learn to be lenient towards yourself. You are both accustomed to getting what you want, and your union is exactly what you've always wanted. On you are both adamantly glorified views, and this in itself is an incentive that makes you make every effort to ensure that your "such a cool" family is held.
Why can you break up? You are able to draw conclusions of excess errors. But you are not a genie from a bottle and not a fairy godmother, so instead of repeating to yourself: "I will not allow serious problems", say this: "If problems appear, we will solve them."
Glitter and strength
What does it mean? Bright, successful, you are brilliant and one-on-one, but together you are a force for which there are no barriers. And even if one of you dominates over the other, it does not deliver the discomfort to the second.
Why will you be together? Two strong-willed people together - it's beautiful, but hard. One of you will one day be so tired of showing another that he, too, does not sew a shit, that he will think: should not we find a more lop-sided partner in life? Also there is a danger that if the dominant partner gets everything he wants.
How to save your love? You must be a team: learn to agree, stand with each other for a mountain, if necessary, shine not simultaneously, but in turn. And remember that you are a woman - which means that you need protection, support, sometimes you tell your man about this straightforwardly. Learn to demonstrate weakness, do not try to be an iron lady. You do not want 10 years later to realize that your partner has mixed up love and admiration? If you can remove the mask of the winner, you will see that you are loved not because of what you are doing, but for what you are.