Parent hyperopece: three anxiety signs

Excessive caring is not an easy thing: with apparent security, it is like a delayed-action mine. Its consequences are inevitable and destructive for the child's psyche. If you have noticed in yourself the desire to control all actions of the baby without exception - it's time to think about what this kind of education is fraught with.

You do not leave the child alone for a minute. You explain your own vigilance with reasonable fears: a crumb can fall, get dirty, get hurt. But psychologists say that the baby has to do this: so he knows the boundaries of his "I" and the surrounding world. You will have to accept this - of course, taking all the necessary precautions.

You instantly solve any problem without the participation of the child - whether it is a conflict in the kindergarten, a slight scratch or an unfastened button. Serious situations, undoubtedly, require your intervention, but insignificant - the baby himself must decide. Without leaving a crumb of chance for independence, you grow in it uncertainty, timidity, nervousness and emotional laziness. A grown-up child will not be able to make decisions and bear responsibility for them - this is hardly what you want.

You aspire to manage not only actions, but also feelings of the child. Most likely, you are afraid to "miss" the baby - but this issue does not resolve despotic upbringing. The best option is to build a warm emotional connection. This is more energy-intensive, but at the same time - absolutely reliable: the baby can safely trust you with innermost thoughts and desires.