Actually, both man and woman can be trite not ready for marriage. In this case, we mean a moral unpreparedness for everything that awaits a young couple after the wedding. This, in particular, depends on the level of responsibility: both yours and your men, but a normal guy himself will seriously think about whether he is ready to start a family, or else should he wait? Although, we will not argue, there is also such a type of young men who, by all means, want to play the wedding "here and now", in order to finally get a "slave Izaura" who will clean the house and wash socks, and cook delicious dinner. And for the night looking at it and will indulge in all the articles. Convenient, is not it? However, such a man is unlikely to become a good family man, because he initially acts on the basis of far from common sense, and the lack of men's brains and responsibilities makes him a green boy, for which time just to care for a loving mother.
So, let's say your man is drawn with a marriage. And you think, they say, they go on, they already want kids, and somehow settle down and take on the construction of the family seriously. But he is silent, stubborn. Remember that if a man does not hurry to get married - does not mean that he does not like, maybe he just weighs his and your readiness for this step. Rejoice that you have got such a thinking man who is able to analyze. These positive qualities will repeatedly help him in the near future. In the meantime ... while we advise you to be patient. Especially if you yourself see that he does not call you to marry, not because he does not like. Warm relations, too, sometimes need to be checked for resistance to everyday life and the first family conflicts, so, perhaps before you formalize your relationship formally, your man will want to come together and live together. So to say, to understand if you can rub with each other. And this decision is also very weighed, it shows that your guy is an adult and reasonable person.
Although it happens that this discretion and adulthood is too prolonging the process. That is, you meet, meet, you live together for many years, and, as you think, perfectly get along. No, of course, and you have small quarrels and conflicts - but you know how to find a compromise solution, and do not bring the situation to global proportions. You are able to correctly distribute household duties, you, like a woman, like to equip a family nest, generously scattering comfort and warmth in all corners of your family home. And he, like a man, likes that when he comes home from work, he finds himself in an environment of endless care and warmth that he can always rely on you, that you will do everything for him. But here the relationship is at an impasse. That is, there was no proposal, and no, and you are all waiting and waiting. Why is this happening?
In principle, everything is simple. Men very quickly get used to good (probably women are also famous for this). And if your life in a civil marriage (let's call it so) is a guy's liking, then he gets used to the fact that, crossing the threshold of the house, he immediately hears your voice that delicious smells are coming from the kitchen, that nothing changes and everything is stable. So he gets used to this constancy. And he does not understand at all: why do you have to change something, why do you have to break this life-quiet way by preparing for the wedding, why this fuss? No, theoretically he understands that painting can not be avoided, but he tries subconsciously to delay this event, in order not to jerk once again. And this proves once again that if a man does not hurry to get married - does not mean that he does not like, maybe he is just used to being together?
There are other reasons why a loving man can put off the coveted wedding day. And the most banal of them is the lack of a material basis for such a large-scale event. After all, there are still men in the world who see a happy smile on the face of their beloved as the goal of their lives. These are good genies who are ready to bite the ground with their teeth, just to fulfill the most cherished dream of their woman. But what kind of a bride does not dream of a chic, fabulous wedding?
A wedding in our time - the event is not cheap, sometimes it takes more than one year to collect money to arrange a real holiday, to invite all of their relatives. And after a noisy meal to drive for a month somewhere abroad, to rest under palm trees, sunbathe in the sun and not think about anything, except for each other.
Or maybe your man is just afraid! Yes, yes, afraid, but not you, but the very responsibility that will fall on his shoulders after the passport is decorated with a stamp? After all, a family is so much work and cares, it is no freedom of movement. After all, you will always have to consult with a woman in everything. And, especially, no financial freedom - here, too, will have to discuss each item of expenditure with his wife, especially if a man needs a large amount of money. Not everyone wants to radically change their usual life. And this does not mean that such men do not like their girls - they just do not get morally grown to the family, and they need to help to do this. Or at least wait until they grow to maturity. It's up to you to decide.
In general and in general, the family is such a responsible step, for the fulfillment of which sometimes it is necessary to wait long enough, to weigh, analyze and check your relations for strength. After all, we all want the family to be one - and for life, without quarrels and partings, strong, solid. And if we take this step in a hurry and recklessly - we can seriously make a mistake and then stay with the broken trough. And this certainly no one wants.
So do not press your young man for not being in a hurry to marry you - maybe he is just waiting for the right moment, the right circumstances? Be patient, especially if you are sure that your boyfriend is your destiny. Dreams come true, they just sometimes choose the right moment!