The word "mistress" in many men is associated with the mystery and sexuality of the lady with whom a married man meets secretly from his wife. Most often, the essence of such relationships is based on romance and sex. It is this definition of such a thing as "mistress" that is best for a woman who meets a married man. In a relationship with a mistress, a man has an extreme sensation, sex, forbidden and such beckoning calls on the phone and the ability to do something forbidden, which, in turn, works well. But how much duty does the length of the husband's relationship with his mistress, and what role does each of these three people (wife, husband, mistress) have, which inevitably fell into such a situation?
Husband, wife and mistress.
Any mistress who could charm already married man, has its appeal, through which a man lives a "double life". At the first stage of such a relationship, it is the mistress who has all power. After all, she was interested and able to get a man who has been living with a woman for several years in a legal marriage. But, despite this, most of his attention and time a man gives it to a new woman in his life, and not to his wife. And even if he spends time with his wife - he can think of her. The husband gives his preference to his mistress not only in his thoughts, but also in his deeds. He gives her gifts and wants to see happy and cheerful. Here it is worth noting that, as it were not good for the mistress, for the wife this behavior of the spouse is very unpleasant and brings a strong moral pain. Therefore it is very unfair if such a novel on the side has a very long duration. But sooner or later all the points over the "I" still have to arrange and if none of the participants in the "love triangle" does it, life will do it.
What does it mean to be "in the shoes" of a mistress ?
The foundation of such relationships, as a rule, is lies and deceit, but, nevertheless, the mistress always turns a blind eye to all of the above. Even without even thinking about the fact that such a man can deceive not only his wife, but herself. This woman sees only the real, betraying him for the real. But if you judge logically, this woman is also a kind of victim of the circumstances. And the man here acts in the role of a real egoist. By the way, the duration of such relationships is often predetermined. This is proved by the fact that a very small percentage of men leave the family for the sake of a mistress. Consequently, such relationships can not last too long, because not every woman will be satisfied with being a "reserve option" and "waiting for the weather to go to sea" in the hope that for her sake a man will leave his wife. Endless waiting - this is the maximum that lies at the basis of relations with his mistress ...
The future of all three parties.
Of course, in life there is every and the small percentage of men who leave their wives for their mistresses still exist. But, for luck or grief, this happens quite rarely. And the main explanation for this is that with a new woman, when creating a family, a man is waiting for complete uncertainty, which can not be said about the languid, but long-known picture of his life together with his current wife. In addition, the love affair with the mistress gives the wrong wife the opportunity to feel the whole charm of "forbidden relations", and here as they say "why pay more." Yes, and leaving his wife, a man is able next to a new woman to lose all his freedom, which he has sought for more than one year. In addition, relationships built on deception can never have a positive end. Sooner or later, the constant cheating of a man will turn him off from the affection of his mistress, and he will return to the family.
Well, if a man still decides on such an important act in his life and goes to his mistress, the duration of the relationship between them will come to a dead end. After all, they both, for a while, lived surrounded by complete deceit, which means that this fact will determine them, supposedly already a family life.
Will the husband stay with his mistress or wife?
Relations on the side rarely reach the wedding. And this must always be remembered. As well as constant hiding, and secret meetings, which also await the collapse. Of course, the fact that a man somewhere deep in his subconscious sees his future next to this woman, but his loyal attitude to his wife and family life is still higher, is certainly not excluded.
It is also worth mentioning here that the mistresses are most often brought by those men who feel the inner emptiness or are simply tired of the monotony and want to try something new. And walking up on the side and filling the void with such "vicious connections" a man, as if nothing is returning to the family in an unprecedented way and, most importantly, trying to restore his former relationship with his wife. In a word, a mistress in this situation acts as an excellent way of discharging and time-out, but, as you know, such a long relationship will not last. After such, so-called "love adventures" a man continues to live his quiet and measured family life, even without recollecting his adventures to the left.
Well, in case the "infidel" did not even mean walking and throwing a mistress, she would push it to him. And the main reason here is pressure from her side on the man, so that he would change something and make his final choice. And men, as you know, do not like when they are pressed, or hurry with the decision. That's why, the best way for him will be "escape from a sinking ship" and quick evacuation to a safer place where he has long been accustomed to see what he is, that is, back to his wife. Only a wife is able to understand and forgive him, no matter how hard it is for her. As they say, you just will not do it for the sake of your family's well-being.
That's what the general picture of the relationship between the wife and husband looks like-a mistress, where the third, or rather the third, is always superfluous, and in this case it is often the mistress.