Every child, regardless of his age, feels a natural need for physical and psychological safety. The family should create conditions for safe behavior of the baby. In a large family, often such conditions are not created and the upbringing of children is characterized by a very low level.
Education in a large family
Some large families have neglected children, who spend a lot of time outside the home. As a result, there are problems in mutual understanding between adults and their children.
In some large families, psychological problems arise in the process of raising children. There is a lack of communication, the elders do not show concern for the younger, there is no mutual respect and humanity towards each other.
Practice shows that the majority of parents who have five or more children are not sufficiently knowledgeable and illiterate in matters of children's upbringing.
The problems of children from large families are that they grow more reserved and insecure, have an underestimated self-esteem. Adult children leave their parents and in most cases lose contact with them.
Irresponsibility and negligence of parents
These qualities inherent in parents from large families lead to the fact that children, often abandoned to the mercy of fate, remain unattended, walk alone on the street (parents do not control the company in which the child is located). Due to negligent attitude of parents to such situations, there are problems in the behavior of children, which can be followed by injuries, unforeseen situations, hooliganism or drinking alcohol.
Children from large families in some cases are afraid of their parents, seek relationships outside the home (run away from home, fall into groups where unsuccessful children gather and with various behavioral abnormalities). But adults need to remember that children and street are incompatible concepts. Parents are responsible for their children, always and everywhere. To the issue of planning and building a family, raising not one or two, but more children, should be treated seriously and in a balanced manner.
Consequences for the child of attention deficit of attention
In many large families with dysfunctional families, children grow up from an early age without the necessary attention and care. Children's needs are partially met. Often children are left unattended and not fed, any disease is diagnosed and treated with delay. Hence the problems of children with health in later life.
Children in such families feel a lack of emotional warmth and attention. Parenting occurs in the form of punishment and in many cases the use of adult assault is used, which gives rise to malice and hatred in the child. The child feels unloved, weak and bad. These feelings do not leave him for a long time. An insecure child, prone to resentment, grows up to be an aggressive and conflicting person.
Often there are large families, where one of the parents or both abuse alcohol. Children who grow up in such an atmosphere often suffer from physical and emotional violence or become witnesses of such situations. They easily take offense and offend others, are not able to sympathize with someone else's grief and trouble.
To avoid problems in the upbringing of children, parents should not build their relationship with the child from a position of strength - it destroys the credibility of adults and does not promote a stable relationship in the family.
To avoid problems with children from large families, parents should show respect, patience for children's feelings and deeds, spend most of their free time with children and families. The main task of parents is to educate children and create family relationships in such a way as to ensure the full development of the individual. This is the way to the stability of the child and the stability of the family.
The problem child, who grew up in a large family, is a problem not only for the family, but for the whole society.
The problems of children from a large family today must be solved at the level of the family, the school, the state.