In order to examine and analyze the psychological characteristics of the mother and teenage girl, we first analyze each of them separately, and then we will focus on their interaction. First, we analyze the psychological characteristics of adolescents aged 12-15 years, including pay attention to the behavior in such a period of girls, we will see how their self-esteem, the idea of life, behavior and psyche changes.
What is the transition age? We all know that this is the period of the so-called "jump from childhood to adulthood," and it can not be the same for different people. But at this age there is not only sexual maturation, physiological changes in the body, but also bright mental and social transformations.
If you follow Freud, the person's personality is divided into three parts: I, it, and the super-I. It is the unconscious of our mind, all the instincts, what we have in common with the animal, the super-I is, and vice versa, our conscience and moral values, what motivates us to do great things. I am the mediator, our true face, which is constantly suppressed by others. A special feature of adolescence is the formation of an inner "I", the identification of a new image. The teenager wants to find himself, to know better his abilities and character, to decide in this world. From this and the search for truth, often false judgments about what surrounds you, maximalism.
Adolescents often tend to dramatically change their behavior - from very adult, understanding and correct, to very childish, changing moods from euphoria to depression, changing their tastes and preferences, so to speak, to look for oneself. Often teenagers choose for themselves some authority from stars, friends, parents, mostly an idol - much older and wiser, his behavior is original, interesting for a teenager. Without a stable, well-formed personality, adolescents create a sample for themselves and adjust their behavior, tone of voice, gestures and facial expressions. Most often, these processes occur subconsciously.
Also characteristic feature will be high receptivity, maximalism, the desire to stand out, to manifest already almost formed oneself, which is found in more mature teenagers. It is typical for them to defend their opinion, not to give in their prejudices and often state this, emphasizing their importance.
That is why adolescents often face problems of self-esteem during this period, most often - low. They are inclined to exaggerate everything, including their shortcomings, judging about their appearance and character traits not from their own observations, but from public opinion. Self-criticism and the absence of one's own opinion are especially characteristic of girls, as they are more likely to worry about their appearance.
A striking feature of teenage girls will be the desire for independence, the desire to get rid of the guardianship of parents, free themselves from control on their part. Similarly, girls are constantly striving for adulthood, while having a false argument about it. Smoking, drinking spirits, a lot of cosmetics, adult clothing, spending money, early sexual contacts - that's how they act in order to look older. For them, the desire to be an adult looks very tempting, because adults are perceived as people who are endowed with power and permissiveness.
One of the most characteristic features is a pronounced aggression, a high level of excitability. In the manifestation of aggression, adolescents can learn from their parents and copy it on a subconscious level. If parents often quarrel with a child, resolve conflicts through pressure, authority and aggression, the child will soon acquire a similar form of behavior. Roughness, a sharp change in character, a desire for adulthood and seriousness is also characteristic of teenage girls, therefore, they often have problems with their mother.
If we talk about the mental characteristics of the mother during this period, it all depends on her relationship to the child, the nature of her character, the ability to cope with difficulties and problems. For most mothers, traumatizing is that her child, a girl, from a tender and a small princess turns into someone else. And although most parents are familiar with the peculiarities of the transition age, it is still stressful for them to observe such a situation. Often, parents apply incorrect measures of upbringing, punish children for what they are given by nature, attribute a sense of guilt. This behavior is irrational and can lead to serious mental difficulties for the child.
A peculiarity of the mother-child relationship in this period is the clash of different ideas about an intimate psychological space. The mother wants to know more about the child, to be closer to him, when the girl pushes her from her intimate psychological barrier and closes in herself.
The psychological characteristics of mother and girl are quite conflicting, but you can cope with it. Notice the progress of your child, praise him, help him to survive teenage difficulties, but do not be imposed - let him ask you for help, but he must know that you can always rely on you and get the necessary, frank help. You spend more time together, watch movies, walk, rest outside the house, give the child different cultural programs. Take care that she always felt her importance and importance, uniqueness and peculiarity.