Women know very little about the men with whom they work. Sometimes they just do not understand them. This is also related to the problems that working women face with their bosses and male colleagues. Below are considered the most typical of them. Men do not perceive women working with them as equals. They usually have a very vague idea of women who are met every day at work, and judge them, first of all, according to their external data. Men quite calmly treat those women who provide their work (print, conduct office work, etc.) or are below them on the career ladder. They automatically take the lead, and women rarely compete with them. Where most of the workers are women, men do not have anything against working with them as long as they are leaders and control the situation. However, they feel uncomfortable with a numerical preponderance of women who are equal in their development.
Modern women are increasingly becoming rivals of men in those areas that used to be male prerogative. They consider themselves equal to men, rebel against male superiority, claim to raise wages and promotion. This irritates men who regard these women as possible rivals, and sometimes as a direct threat to their well-being.
Men tend to have as little as possible to deal with such women. As a result, women may find themselves in isolation within the firm. They often lack information about the internal situation in the firm, which men usually exchange with each other.
Moreover, in such cases, women can also be subjected to aggressive actions on the part of men. These attacks can be either direct, with scandals and public accusations and insults, or mediated, for example, in the form of gossip, insinuations, the desire to embarrass, etc. Especially unpleasant gossip of a sexual nature, when it is believed that a woman received promotion or achieved any other success in the service, not because she has the necessary skills for this job, but for her sexual qualities. Men can resort to such actions, because otherwise they would have to admit that the qualification of such a woman is higher than their professional level. Therefore, if a woman is successfully promoted, she will most likely become an object of gossip.
Before responding to these attacks, make sure that they are really directed specifically against you, and you did not provoke them yourself, and also decide if they are worth going to confrontation. Then study the personality and character of your opponent, this will make it easier for you to deal with it. If you were subjected to direct attack, do not give in to the first desire to reply the same. It's best to try to turn everyone in jest or directly ask your opponent: "For what purpose do you say this?" A joke or question, you can soften the power of attack without provoking your opponent.
You can try to use such a woman's weapon as tears. For men, your tears will mean that this issue is really very important for you, and they will be more attentive to it and will try to get out of this unpleasant situation faster. Just do not repeat this trick with tears again, otherwise everyone will think that you can not control your emotions.
To avoid such aggressive actions in the future, be competent in your work and make sure that everyone knows about your progress. However, to work hard, this is not all that is required of you. Maintain good relations with colleagues and, especially, with your boss. Follow the customs and traditions of the firm. If, for example, in your team great importance is attached to sports, you should also get carried away by it. To always be aware of the cases, you need to have extensive acquaintances.
It is also useful to apply to men for help, but not from the position of a weak woman, but as a colleague who needs additional information on a particular issue.
And in general, think about whether you should claim leadership. After all, if there are not enough women in your team, then, of course, you will enjoy additional benefits.
Sexual aggressiveness of men is a problem that many women face at work. It can manifest itself in various forms: hints and suggestions, indecent jokes, obscene language, attempts to touch or pet, blackmail in the event of refusal of sexual intimacy and even attempted rape. Such actions can be expected from both superiors and colleagues. The reasons for this behavior of men lie not only in their sexual inclinations, but also in the desire to show their power and superiority over women.
A woman, at times, is embarrassed or afraid to sharply object to a man, does not want to make a fuss, so as not to look stupid. When there is a limit to patience, she can react excessively emotionally, for example, to quit her job.
The easiest way to protect yourself is to stop such attempts at the root. As soon as this happens for the first time, immediately suggest not to conduct such conversations with you or in your presence and take your hands off without entering into a discussion on this matter. However, if the attempt at rapprochement was soft and unobtrusive, then it is necessary to respond tactfully, without touching the person's self-esteem. As a rule, it should without any noise and consequences put an end to this behavior.
If it continues, warn that you will have to say or write a memorandum to your boss or higher-ups. In extreme cases, you can record a conversation with your opponent on a pocket dictaphone and warn him that you are going to acquaint with this film of his boss or contact a lawyer.