What if she does not like me? What if it hurts me? A lot of blood will be? But what if…? Thousand and one questions. Calm down. Now we'll figure it out in details, and find out how to make the first sex unforgettable.
First: Do not be shy about talking about sex with who you plan it with.
It would seem that it can be simpler. Not in Soviet times, after all, we live, about IT at us now on each corner and on each site. However, in most cases, we are always shy about talking about IT, even, sometimes, with our beloved partners, that is, even with those whom it directly and in all senses concerns. So, hack to yourself on the nose and other memory organs, which is. The main thing in sex (especially in the very first) is mutual - I focus on the boys, MUTUAL - the desire of this wonderful act, taking into account the care and respect for the partner. Do not interfere with such useful bonuses to this, as feelings like "tenderness," and the like.
Second: A man must understand the full responsibility of the moment.
Girls in general are fragile creatures, you know. And even more so, if we talk about the first sex and how to make the first sex unforgettable ... Guys, you understand, grossly depriving virginity, you cause irreparable psychological trauma for life. But, unfortunately, such cases are not uncommon, and not necessarily unfamiliar monsters as a result, God forbid, of rape. Sometimes, alas, such horror and lawlessness is created by the familiar boys of girls, showing selfishness and cynicism of the highest degree. The result will be a total mistrust of men as a biological species, a huge inferiority complex, deaf grudge and hatred as an option, for sweet. Break all this in the future will only be the enormous patience of a man's loving heart, and the future husband of a poor girl, if any, will tell you more than once to yourself a huge mater thanks. So be careful when you first have sex with a virgin. And you, girls, too, do not forget about vigilance and caution. Do not provoke the lower heads of the strong half of humanity cheeky manner or especially such some kind of defiant image. And one on the dark side streets should not be walked, although we are distracted ...
The general found out, now we will pass to the private - how to make your first sexual contact for the girl as painless and comfortable as possible.
The main thing is to prepare carefully, boys.
And do not hurry. Not a fire. Prelude in the mode of special durability and tenderness, as calm as possible, lyrical atmosphere, so that no one comes, God forbid, at the most crucial moment. Better - a separate apartment, and a clean, neat hotel room. Do not shy away from the classics, no matter how worn it seemed. Romantic, soft music, beautiful bedding on the bed, flowers and light snacks. It is not necessary to get involved with alcohol very much, it's harmful. A maximum is a glass of wine to relax both, especially Her. But on this limit.
Start a lot of aces recommend with a massage . Perhaps, we will agree with this. The massage will further relax the girl, she will feel the warmth and tenderness of the male hands, especially since back massage is very convenient to move on to further strategic actions on the offensive on all fronts. Kiss her body before losing the pulse of a girl from passion, by the way, pay attention to the neck, elbow and popliteal folds, a kiss behind the ear - sensitive places. At the same time, whisper there something more pale, do not skimp on warm words - women love with their ears. Then you can gradually lower your lips lower for cunnilingus - affectionate touch of your tongue to her clitoris maximally adjusts the girl to continue.
Enter carefully and delicately. Specialists recommend for the first time: a missionary posture - a man from above, a girl on her back, under the buttocks a pillow; pose of a rider - here the girl can itself regulate the depth and intensity of penetration; dogi-style, but if the girl becomes very painful, try to raise her lower back higher and ask to unbend her arms in the elbows; the pose of the so-called "spoon" - the girl lies on her side, bent over backwards and lifted her upper leg, the man lies on his side and back. Look, this is as you like it. Here opinions differ from scientists ...
Many are waiting for blood . A lot of blood. A whole puddle. Calm down. In fact, the hymen is a thin film with a small number of blood vessels in most cases. So, most of the bleeding is very small, in some cases (about 10% according to the latest scientific data) there is no bleeding at all. So - without panic.
For girls. It is worthwhile to understand that with the beginning of sexual life your hormonal background changes. Usually menstrual periods become more precise in terms and less painful, there are often delays for a week after the first sex. In any case, the best solution is to visit a gynecologist after the first experiment. He will help with advice, if necessary he will make a series of tests, if you are not sure of the health of your partner, pick up an oral contraceptive, if you live with him together, completely trust and everything in general is good for you.
Do not expect from the first sex life in a bright and sparkling vaginal orgasm. No, of course, it happens - but very rarely. Most often the girl turns out to be done with the help of oral caresses or hands. Do not get upset if orgasm does not happen at first. It did not work out at the beginning - it will definitely work out some other time. After all, the very essence of sex, guys, is not only in achieving orgasm, sex is still mostly - the process of maximum rapprochement between two people, the moment of the highest tenderness. It takes some time to understand each other what it likes to fully achieve mutual understanding. Do not chase the number of orgasms, not a sports record set in the name of the motherland. Relax and enjoy the very process of intimacy!
Good luck to you, and love each other more often ...