Relationships classified as "Secret" arise between people due to various circumstances, the cause of which is not always treason. Secret relations appear not only against the background of family relations, but also when the novel can not be understood by society, it will envy, ridicule or ban. Of course, secret love creates certain difficulties, but they are nothing compared to adrenaline, which excites the blood and makes more and more want a new dose of "secret" happiness. Why is the love that men and women are forced to hide, so attractive, and the secret novels bind the relationship stronger than the stamp in the passport?
Charm of secrecy
Secret relations at least once experienced everyone in their lives. Someone had a service romance with the boss, someone had a romantic relationship with a married neighbor, someone was hiding forbidden love from the parents, and someone - from the husband. Secret connections have always been a piquant page in world history and, of course, without them there would be a fresh modern life. That's why people are ready to take risks, encrypt dates, hide passwords and access to personal contacts and revel in their feelings secretly so that, God forbid, the secret did not become obvious. But love difficulties only attach value to what has been gained with effort, risk, cunning and savvy. Secret love becomes like an adventurous adventure, which most lovers remember with enthusiasm and try as long as possible to prolong the charm of secret encounters, "stolen" visits and forbidden relations.
Three causes of secret passion
Professor of social psychology, American Madeleine Fuger, who wrote the book "Social Psychology of Attractiveness and Romantic Relationships," took the secret love to pieces and brought out the three main reasons that make it so attractive to most people.
Reason 1. Gambling
The passion for secrets and riddles is instilled literally from childhood. Games in scouts and spies, mysterious adventures of movie heroes and detective investigations in book novels are the soil on which no generation has grown. However, childhood ended, and with it exciting spy games. To somehow compensate for their shortage, people tend to fill their lives with secret romance through forbidden love. Ambiguous hints, languid glances, encrypted messages and furtive passions turn the relationship into a quest game where, the more confusing and secretive, the more interesting. Hence the passion of lovers for sexual experiments with the risk of exposure. In addition, one secret for two brings together, makes accomplices and strengthens the relationship of "criminals".
Reason 2. Novelty and freshness of relations
"Stolen" love prolongs the passion. In such relationships, people can not drink love to the bottom. They do not feel full saturation with each other, because by their circumstances everything is limited - time, and love, and sex. Scientific research shows that in "legalized" relationships sexual satisfaction reaches its maximum within the first year, then they decrease, passing into silent love, friendship, partnership, or in general a low degree of passion becomes the reason for the completion of a novel or marriage. While secret ties incomparably longer keep the passion at the peak, bringing unpredictability and novelty to the relationship.
Reason 3. The illusion of freedom
Lovers, whose relationships are not subject to publicity or not stamped in the passport, consciously or subconsciously consider themselves free. They love each other, but they can afford to sing one more than the official couple, who are dependent on the condemnation and censure of those around them. To some people, the feeling of freedom inspires and leaves the right of choice, which is no longer in the family relations. Of course, if a person is in love, this does not prevent him from being true and dreaming about the official status. Especially, according to statistics, from secret love marriages are strong and lasting. However, it also happens that classified relationships become a convenient excuse for loving individuals, or for those who are shy of such a partnership or have no serious intentions.