So what are the secrets of confident and easy communication? The main secret of successful communication: if you are alone with yourself, then the rest of you will be very interesting and easy to communicate with you. Finding suitable topics for conversation is not such a problem. What is the last book you read, what movie looked, what do you think about contemporary actors or singers? Simple at first glance questions will be excellent topics for friendly communication. For example, you can have a regular blog - it's a great base for some kind of training in eloquence. If you learn to write your thoughts in a way that others will simply read your records, then in oral speech you should not have any special problems, and communication will be easy and confident.
However, the whole catch is that you like the most difficult task for a girl. Standing in front of the mirror, we seem to look at ourselves through a huge magnifying glass, and see a whole bunch of flaws, which it is impossible to conceal, and it's unbearable to live with them. Do you want us to tell you a big secret? All these "shortcomings" are visible only to their owners, yet those around them do not notice or simply do not pay any attention to them. However, the uncertainty that gives out your complexes is very well felt, and communication becomes not sure.
How to act in this situation correctly? Need to change immediately, and for the better. Try to make sure that your back is always even, even if you're riding high heels, and with a huge bag in your hands. The pose should be as free as possible, and the voice - clear, clear and pleasant. You, perhaps, will be surprised how quickly, at first glance, such trifles will greatly change the attitude to yourself. Dress only those clothes that you really like, and in which you feel confident and attractive. And do not forget that the ideal is small things, so do not forget about accessories and details of clothing, such as a belt, purse or hoop. Mood up? That's fine! You also need to make sure that your clothes are always clean and tidy.
And now, we have more confidence. To fulfill the second secret of easy communication, you need to learn how to tell stories in a beautiful and interesting way. If you keep a diary, then try to write now not only about your emotional feelings, but dilute the narrative with the story of what you saw when you were going to the visage courses. Still there is one simple exercise. Think of some primitive story, for example, a little story about how a beautiful butterfly mixed up a real flower, and a flower on a dress, and then tell it from the face of different characters. And How? Happened? And now, lose this scene: first tell her from a third person in a serious tone, and then in a comic or sarcastic. If at you all left, then come up with other scenarios and also process them yourself.
There are two types of storytellers that people like to listen to especially. The first ones are those who can laugh (just do not need to tell "jaded" stories and anecdotes, better say something new, unusual and cheerful), the latter - who can give efficient advice (everything depends on you here). You can choose the option that you like more. First, practice a little, and then boldly start living with your friends, who, of course, will appreciate your efforts. You will soon be able to see that your communication will be confident and unconstrained.
And do not forget that no one will even listen to a very interesting and fascinating story if you tell her you will be quiet, insecure, and you will not look in the eyes, but somewhere aside, communication should be easy. If you want to be known as the goddess of communication, then your appearance should be impeccable, and self-confidence is simply iron. Do not pay attention to minor troubles, such as swollen mascara or an arrow on pantyhose. In general, convince yourself that you are simply beautiful and almost perfect, and then other people will believe it too, and the communication barrier will simply disappear.
What do we have to do?
Smile. You can not even imagine how effective this weapon is. And do not be lazy once again to use this technique to attract the attention of your friends and just passers-by.
Be tactful. When you joke, you do not need to offend or humiliate anyone. Even if the minute joke will be successful, there is a serious chance to make yourself a couple of enemies or real enemies who will not miss the chance to take revenge on you.
Become open to communication . You're not a hammered puppy, and not even an Ice Princess. Do not be afraid to tell funny stories about yourself. To laugh at yourself is not a shame, but on the contrary, it's fun. Since a person with a sense of humor is always interesting and pleasant in communication.
What is better to give up once and for all?
Gossip . In doing so, it is very likely that you will find like-minded people who will support you and help you to "wash the bones" all in a row. However, this situation is very deceptive, since people with whom you communicate are not friends, they only want to find out the controversial information.
Flattery . Do you say flattering compliments to everyone in a row and for everything, hoping that by doing so you increase the likelihood that something will be said to you, anything pleasant? And here and in vain! Real goddesses do not need such techniques.
Nerves . Your insecurity can be very well calculated - in your manner of communication, posture, movements, etc. Take a deep breath and make sure that you look perfect: the clothes sit well, the manicure does not deteriorate and the hair is not disheveled - then just have fun and talk. What for to strain because of trifles, if it is possible to rejoice simply lives.