Secrets of flirting

The first key to success is not at all the ability to show oneself and impress, but the ability to subtly, but at the same time make it clear that someone liked it. If the "goal" feels that it is interesting to a woman, then the chances of liking him greatly increase.


This simple fact has been demonstrated in uncountable research and experiments, but in fact for its proof it does not need to be a genius in the forehead.

When it comes to flirting, most - especially men - focus on the verbal element of it: in conversations, on the need to insert the correct cue at the right time, on finding the right words and so on.

In fact, the non-verbal aspect of flirting - body language, intonation, timbre and vibration of the voice, etc. - is much more important, especially at the very first stage.

When a man meets a woman for the first time, his first impression of him will be 55 percent depending on her appearance and body language, 38 percent of the way she talks, and only 7 percent of what she says.

Similarly, non-verbal signals sent by the "victim" will tell a man about his attitude toward him more than words. People express their attachments and dislikes not by what they say, but by how they do it, and by the poses, facial expressions and gestures accompanying the words.

The traditional "very nice", for example, can mean anything - from "uh, what a cutie you are!" to "n-yes, well, well ..."

Eyes - this is probably the most important secret of flirting. Usually people think that the eyes are an organ that perceives information, but in fact they are also an incredibly powerful transmitter. By the way people look at each other, they meet their eyes, look away, it's easy to see if they get a dizzying pleasure from easy flirting or lead a boring, none of them necessary and not too pleasant for both conversations.

Eyes in the eye - this is so powerful weapons that in normal circumstances, people are forced to very strictly limit the time to use it. A long look into the eyes of another person can only mean one thing: a person experiences in comparison with him incomparable emotions - either sympathy or hostility. Usually, embarrassed by the manifestations of emotions of such intensity, people try to keep their eyes on the eyes for not more than a second, and in a large crowd or surrounded by strangers even less. And many try to avoid eye contact.

By the way, it's in the hands of those who want to priudarit for an attractive stranger (or stranger). Even in a crowded hall, through hundreds of heads, a person can let a person know that he is not indifferent. All you need to do is to catch the eye of the person of interest and hold it for more than a second.

If a man succeeded, then the hope for mutual interest, already in his pocket. And if after this first encounter with the eyes the object of hunting looks away for a moment, and then looks at it again, one can be sure: he is already indifferent. Well, if he is rewarded with a smile, then you can approach with certain certainty.

If they do not meet with a glance, and when they meet, they immediately look away and do not return it again, it may mean that the interest of the man, alas, came upon a blank wall. However, it is too early to despair: the object of sighing can be too shy. In addition, some ladies consider it shameful to show anyone what they liked a stranger. Is it so? Or are the chances really going to zero?

You can learn about this only by carefully watching how the goal behaves with others. Does she avoid meeting the gaze with all the men? Does he (the object) look nervous, anxious or, say, arrogant when he communicates with other women? If yes, then in his (object) unwillingness to respond to your opinion there is probably nothing personal, and to try your luck may still be worth it, although with special precautions.

Well, when a man approached the subject of his passion fleeting, he again needs to establish eye contact - at least in order to start a conversation. As soon as your eyes meet, you can start talking. As soon as the conversation began, you can take your eyes off.

It is useful to know at the same time that during the dialogue the speaker can look almost anywhere; the listener more often looks at the interlocutor. Therefore, if a man has finished his remark and wants to hear the answer, he needs to look again into the victim's eyes. If a man wants to show interest in what the object of courting says, you just need to look at it carefully for three-fourths of the total time of the conversation, and the duration of each such look should be from one to seven seconds.

The speaking person usually looks at the attentive less than half the time and meets his eyes for a very short time - up to a second. When a new acquaintance (friend) finishes talking and decides to transfer the initiative to the interlocutor, she (or he) will briefly look into the eyes: we must take the baton. The key words here "take a look" and "briefly": you can not stare too long on the goal of hunting, or anywhere else.

The most common mistake that flirting people do is to look too long in the eyes or prematurely try to approach each other. Both that, and another, first, leads to that the object ceases to feel comfortable, and secondly, incorrectly interprets the received signal. Some men bury their hopes already at the stage of the first conversation, when they try to lead it with a bust of a woman they like, forgetting even occasionally to raise their eyes to her face.