How to find common language with guys? Probably, you need to learn to understand each other. In fact, it is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. The main mistake of girls is that they consider the understanding and psyche of men to be similar to theirs. This is fundamentally wrong. The guys perceive and realize the world is absolutely different. If women always, first of all, are guided by emotions, then men think about logic and rationalism. If a woman tries to act on a man, relying on him and his emotions, it often turns out that he behaves like an insensitive block, and she is like a hysterical woman. In order not to create a conflict, the girl should remember that the guys often do not like when they are sorry and do not know how to feel sorry for themselves. They are looking for a rational way out of their situation, and do not leave room for emotion. Guys do not understand why for a hundred times to ask how things are, ooh and ah, if you really can not do anything. Also, they will never sit with you, and utter one problem a hundred times, discuss in detail its details, without trying at the same time, to seek rational solutions. You must always remember this to find a common language with the guys. In addition, young people do not like many of the themes that so favor girls. Even stylish and fashionable guys can not talk for three hours about clothes and cosmetics. If you want to communicate on an equal footing, then be interested in computers, cars and games. For men these topics are such that they can discuss for days on end.
If you want to be friends with guys, learn to understand them and accept them as perceived by each other male representatives. But try to behave so that they always remember: despite the fact that you're a friend, all the same, in the first place, you always remain a girl. That's why, you need to support men in their hobbies and conversations, but not to turn into a guy, after all, it is quite possible that in some of them you will once fall in love.
In order to understand the guys, you need at least a little to know their psychology. Never forget that young people try to appear better and steeper than they really are. Before each other, they will always be not completely sincere, telling about their achievements and victories. And only a real friend can force to remove the mask and show your soul. Never need to put pressure on guys and force them into something to persuade. Young people must themselves acknowledge the truth.
Often, they pretend that this is their own conclusions and you have nothing to do with it. It is best to support such a legend, because young people are annoyed when they begin to debunk their image of independence and coolness. In order to achieve mutual understanding, you need to listen and look. If you carefully observe the guy, you can quickly understand in which situations he can be completely sincere, and when it is better not to draw the truth out of him. Remember what young people do not like when they are pressed with questions and questions. You just need to make it clear that you can listen, help and support in any situation. If a man is sure of this, he will always come to you for help, sooner or later, but he will definitely come. Then you can talk to him and suggest solutions to the problem. Just do not endlessly talk about the complexity of the world and the painful problems. Just listen to the whole story without interrupting and then give some constructive and effective advice. Do not insist and do not expect that the guy will agree with everything. But know that he will take your words into consideration and will use this information when he makes any decisions.
In men's companies, girls are often discussed. If you want to be "your own", you must understand this and support, or at least, resign yourself. There are ladies who by nature have a manly mindset, so these conversations are supported with zeal and interest. In fact, it is very convenient, because in talking about other women you can learn a lot of interesting and useful for yourself. Therefore, it is not worth pressing your lips and expressing your "fi" when the guys again take someone to discuss. Firstly, they sincerely do not understand what's going on and just stop frank before you. It is better to take everything for granted and try to learn something useful.
Not all girls can find a common language with guys. A loved one is one thing, but a man's company is quite another. Do not get upset because of this, because it's easier for some to communicate with girls, and some - with guys. There is nothing reprehensible. Everything depends only on the nature, mindset and temperament of every woman. Everyone can find a common language with a loved one, because love makes us look, meddle, study and compromise. But if you want to be friends with young people, then study in their company to be a little bit like them. Guys appreciate those girls who understand and, in some way, share the point of view but can explain and explain everything based on the female perception of a particular situation. There are many companies where among several guys there is only one girl who they wear on their hands and at the same time consider their best friend. Just do not need to unduly emphasize their belonging to the female sex, although it's definitely not worth forgetting about it. Try to be natural. If men's views, conversations and concepts are clearly inconsistent with your perception of the world, you do not have to force yourself.
If you still like to communicate with young people, then, never forget that you are a woman, which means wisdom. With the help of your mind and intuition, you can understand any guy, help him and make him your best friend. And, probably, and loved. Just remember from this and then you can always find a common language with the guys.