One and the same process, but each of us has his own attitude, motivation, reasons. Why does this happen? What does sex mean today for the majority? Why are the reasons so different and what is the reason for this? Let's figure it out.
Social recognition
It has already happened that sex today is part of advertising, marketing and social culture. Sex for us today means something very desirable, beautiful, necessary. Where do not look - sexy girls on posters, symbols, signs, slogans, which really attract better, interest the consumer. Sex today is hidden in books and movies, in images. Analyzing the favorite protagonist or heroine, who have achieved success in society - they are usually liberated, sexy and self-confident. The hero of fighters, adventure films and fantasy is usually a brave guy, he deserves to be a favorite of the public, and not some pimply unconfident teenager. Sex today is one of the forms to achieve social recognition, to become part of the image, to devote oneself to the desired. We follow sex as a cult, believing that it will bring self-satisfaction, pleasure and confidence.
Fear of loneliness
Each of us, to some extent, from time to time, suffers from loneliness. Sometimes, even if we have friends and a close person - we can vseravno feel like it's the only person on the planet. And although there are so many people around, it seems to us that they are all strangers, uncomprehending, not loving. A person is inclined to flee from loneliness, equally as from death. This is one of the nightmares, horrors, which dreams at night. Aved each of us has a piece of this fear, some kind of emptiness inside, which can only be filled by another person. People need unity, we need other people, communication, intimacy, love. Sometimes the emptiness in us is too strong and all-consuming and we try to fill it with sex. After sex is a great intimacy, the proximity of two people. This discovery, trust, unity. Sex allows people not to feel lonely, open up to another person, trust in him and allow him to erase his fears.
I wish to wish
Sometimes the motive for having sex is the desire ... to desire sex. All around in one voice they say how good it is, how pleasant and wonderful. After all, sex is something special. If there is no desire, we ask ourselves: what's wrong with us? Each of us is afraid of being abnormal in some way. This common desire - fits into some framework of society. The desire to be "like everyone" pushes us and the nerax. After all, this is "normal". And being frigid or not wanting sex is often equated with resentment and humiliation, illness. But do not want to - it's completely normal, especially if a number of an unattractive person or in your life is now a difficult period. Sex is a very intimate activity and it's up to you. It is not necessary to adjust yourself to common frames and pseudo statuses and norms. Wish for sex only because others want it-stupid. For each of us comes its own time and reason. Moreover, making yourself is the worst thing you can think of. Thus, it is quite possible to accumulate bitterness and resentment, and soon and completely lose the desire and even ... to find fear. Do you need this?
Pleasure
It's not a secret that sex brings pleasure, the areas that are used in the brain make it like a drug. But we do not care about the dependence on sex - it only benefits our organism: smell improves, weight and risk of heart disease, miraculous a cure for depression, a lesser chance of influenza, and better general health. And what is the disrespectful reason?
Self-assertion and self-confidence
Sex is one of the forms of self-expression, self-affirmation. This is especially true for men, for whom skills in sex mean a lot. Most men perceive sex as personal "victories", wanting to feel like a genius, a superman or a movie hero ... That's why there is such a thing: men talk about their victories and achievements in sex, and women contrary to complain. And in this there is some truth. For most men, sex is a part of status, an important component of their life, a characteristic of their own. For women, this is more a way to gain self-confidence. Every woman likes to be desired, this is necessary for them. If a woman does not love, she will wither, like a flower that is not refilled. Although the girl can mutter and grumble to her boyfriend that "you always only about one thing and think, you always want me, I'm already tired, lascivious", if this "animal" suddenly ceases to want it, will not pay attention to its beautiful and seductive external kind ... she will be mortally offended. Sex helps a woman to feel wanted, to feel herself beautiful and beloved. Male sex gives self-confidence, allows us to feel the king of the whole world! For every sex - this is not only a means of communication, a way to express yourself, but also to prove to yourself something. Sex sometimes poses a power and trust, which is also very valuable.
For each person sex can find an individual symbol, a meaning that will be the motivation and cause.