In a single impulse with her husband, you decide to extend your, now, joint genus. You with grief and happiness in half nurture all 9 months of your first-born. Iiii ... The magic moment of the appearance of the baby has come! Congratulations to you! A young father with flowers and a cousin of relatives is taking you from the hospital. After a first-week euphoria, a series of days devoted solely to the baby was drawn.
"Papa", your husband, is not noticeable, but with an enviable constancy, late evenings, going to bed, turning away on a barrel and peacefully snuffling, departs to the kingdom of Morpheus!
You, in turn, are asking the obvious question - why does the husband not want sex after giving birth?
Reasons, in fact, a great many, but consider the main ones. Let's start in order.
Psychological reasons:
1 reason. During pregnancy, women, to put it mildly, behave not very calmly, cute and loving towards her husband. Moods, bad health, heaviness, fatigue, toxicosis do not reduce problems in the pair, but rather vice versa. One, the other, the third ... Com in your quarrels, misunderstandings and omissions grows at catastrophic speed! A small number of men, having come home from work in the evening, are able to listen, support and surround their pregnant half with caring. In the pair, separation is felt, and it does not go away by inertia, but continues to exist after the birth. With such a baggage of problems and mutual resentment about sex, one can not speak. First you need to sit down together and figure out the accumulated heap of your own problems. You need to talk about your feelings and listen to your husband.
2 reason. A man, watching how you feed your baby's chest, lisp with him, bathe, etc. ceases to perceive you as a sexual object, which he so wanted to attack when you first met (at least subconsciously). Now he sees in you a caring, still dearly loved, but the mother of his child. Mother - Madonna. In the head of her husband, this awareness is unlikely to be associated with sex.
3 reason. All your attention has turned to a little prankster who suddenly appeared in your house. The husband is not the only one and the most adored. Well, if he gets a kiss in the door with the word "hello" when coming from work. But from this kiss and to sex still oh, how far. Women are warmer and a little more attentive to their earners and your strongest mates. Flirt with her husband and, without noticing this, immediately turn into a treacherous temptress.
4 Reason. Young mothers are very difficult to pay attention to the child, and her husband, and her! If a man does not help you in home affairs and in caring for a child, you still need to talk with him very convincingly and determine his front of housekeeping for every day. And so. Oh, a miracle! You have already been found, what-no, 30 minutes to your beloved!
And then - a flight of fantasy! We are with you women! A mask on the face, or a bath with fragrant herbs, and even a SPA-salon somewhere not far from the house or a shop of erotic linen! And thanks to our, with you, women, diligence and effort, we are ready for the night of love! Well, not the night, but, say, for a while, until the "most important" member of the family calls you with his loud cry in the night!
5 Reason. Another reason for the lack of sex is the presence of the husband during childbirth. Sex after a man's fright causes harm and makes him guilty before the child. In this case, take an active role in sex on yourself and under your control. Show your loved one that you should not be afraid, that you are still the same woman who wants him no less in bed than before.
6 Reason. In no case should we postpone for tomorrow, as they say, what can be eaten today! So that's it! You can not postpone sex on ... - "Tomorrow I will definitely seduce my beloved husband !!!" No! No! And again - No !!! A couple, as they live without sex, risks to remain without it at all! The human body is such a thing, insolent and complex! This "fruit" very quickly adapts to everything and gets used to it. "No sex? Well and good! »And here hormonal failure and ... illnesses, illnesses, illnesses are not far off! And you need to be oh, how vigorous and strong, in order to give all your strength and energy to your baby. And your husband can develop, so-called "Widow's Syndrome" due to prolonged abstinence, which for his health has no less negative color.
And since we started talking about health.
Physiological aspects of the question - why does the husband not want sex after giving birth?
Trauma received by a woman after childbirth carried out naturally may not be the last reason in this situation. The closer you are to your husband, and he to you, the more pleasant it is for you to spend time in an intimate atmosphere. But your muscles in such a charming place may not be as strong and elastic as before. There are many physical exercises (for example, Kegel exercise - simultaneous contraction of the muscles of the anus and vagina) and types of massage to return to female beauty and charm in certain places of the original species and condition, as in prenatal times.
If the consequences of the birth of your baby are more serious and in the maternity hospital have not been sufficiently well adjusted by medical personnel, it is possible to apply for additional correction of the female genitalia in the maternity ward or in another medical clinic of your choice.
And finally, dear women, do not despair! Take the bull by the horns and into the burning hut! And medicine, psychology and cosmetology at the level of the 21st century will help us! Good luck and good health to all your strong family!