The ideal woman for such a romantic is something ghostly and elusive, poorly described by words, sensual.
Pragmatists and pessimists do not believe in love at all, they are convinced that an ideal woman for an imperfect man does not exist in nature. Ask them what motivates the relationship between a man and a woman, they will tell you about the evolution, the struggle of males for females or females for males. In their narrative there will be a lot of rude materialism and no sentimentality.
Truth, as usual, lies in the middle between these extreme points of view. And every man has a chance to meet his ideal, well, or almost perfect woman. What do I need to do? It is only necessary to understand the nature of love and the relationship between a man and a woman.
If we approach the study of love with healthy pragmatism, without excessive skepticism or enthusiasm, then it turns out that love at first sight has its rational reasons. We do not fall in love with anyone at first sight. Our ideal of a man or a woman exists in our head or in our heart. And it's good if it is consistent and realistic. At the moment of meeting with the person who is most similar to this ideal, we experience what is commonly called a love or love peek at first sight.
In order to understand what would be an ideal woman for a non-ideal man, it is worth looking into his past. Even if in the present a coffee table of such a man is littered with magazines with sexy beauties on the cover, you should not flatter yourself. The ideal of a woman, propagandized by magazines, rarely coincides with the ideal in the head of a man. Only insecure and underdeveloped men can seriously make their ideal beauty from the magazine pages. In most cases, the ideal woman for a particular man is far from the generally accepted canons of beauty.
Even if your friend or friend claims that he wants to marry a girl named a la Pamela Anderson, do not rush him to believe. In his head he can firmly sit the image of a woman of a square build, with a short haircut on her dark hair. The thing is that the ideal of a woman is formed by a man in his head at about the age of 4-5, is fixed quite rigidly, and then again adjusted in adolescence. After this, it is difficult to change this ideal. No magazines or advice from friends here will not help. And even parents will not be able to intervene. After all, unconsciously, such a man already knows exactly what kind of woman he needs.
Why are the women's ideals so strong? Let's consider in more detail For the first time the boy realizes himself to be a man between the ages of 3 and 5. Sigmund Freud called this stage the Oedipus stage. The name is based on the myth of Oedipus, who killed his father in order to marry his mother. The first object of love for a boy usually becomes his mother, grandmother or nanny, if with his mother at this age he sees himself rarely. He begins to realize his significant differences from the opposite sex and for the first time experiences tender feelings towards the woman. But since a five-year-old boy usually has a strong competitor in the form of a father or grandfather, the boy faces a serious problem. He begins to be jealous of his mother to his father, some babies are so straight and say that they want his father dead, or they want to kill him to marry his mother. Over time, this stage of emotional conflict over a woman passes, and the child grows up. However, in his head, the idea of an ideal woman is firmly entrenched. Usually it is 5-6 of the most important, basic characteristics of his mother or grandmother. Freud called these several qualities "primary fixation." This is a strong, emotionally colored clot of personality, which in the future is very weakly destroyed and is not subject to correction.
And yet in his teens, the boy gets a second chance to reconsider his views on the ideal of a woman. He meets his first love, which often turns out to be the complete opposite of the mother. Or she has some bright quality, which the mother does not have. Then this new quality complements the original list of features, or replaces the old qualities with new ones. This slightly changed list of features of an ideal woman, which is adjusted in adolescence, Sigmund Freud called "secondary fixation."
So it turns out that for an imperfect man, there is always an ideal of a woman. Usually he has nothing to do with the images of the beauties from the television screen. And purely outwardly, and in character, such an ideal is much closer to the real figures from the environment of a man. That's why almost every man has a chance to find his half, which will become for him the most desirable, most beloved list of external and internal qualities of an ideal woman.