The basic rule of building successful relationships between a man and a woman is not trying to avoid wrong decisions or problem situations, but to learn from mistakes in order to develop and move to new levels of development of one's personality and relationships with others.
It is difficult to identify the main mistakes that a woman commits against her man. Any couple builds relationships on an independent and individual scenario. For someone, betrayal is a mistake, and for someone it's not a serious entertainment. Someone is able to forgive the spouse the conflict with his parents, and for someone this is an occasion for divorce.
Look for the golden mean
Perhaps, in many issues, the main mistakes that a woman can make are related to the inability to find the golden mean. For example, isolation in communication is very bad for the relationship with her husband. If the wife is not able to discuss problems as they arise, she accumulates negative emotions and irritation. Sooner or later this irritation, accumulated, pours on the household, and usually the strength of anger does not match the situation. The man is confused, and the loss of control over his words and behavior because of the power of emotions can lead to completely irreversible consequences in the relationship.
Do not talk too much
On the other hand, complete frankness towards your man is also contraindicated to a healthy family. For example, psychologists believe that a woman commits a mistake if she tells her husband or lover about her previous novels. Often men are asked to tell about how everything was. Do not succumb to these provocations, because a man seeks in such stories is not what you think. He either looks for a possible source of problems in the current relationship, which, in his opinion, stem from past novels. Either he warms up his jealousy or cherishes the complexes, trying to compare himself with the competitor.
Take away the bad habits
The main mistakes that a woman commits against her man can also be considered unwillingness to control the dark sides of her character. Do not over-relax and give vent to all your vices. Sometimes, having overcome the first months of grinding characters, women feel that the relationship has become stable, and begin to show themselves "in all its glory." They allow themselves to speak poorly of a man and his family, go to shapeless gowns instead of stylish home suits or, for example, show all the disposition of their nature. You should understand yourself that every person who seeks love and warmth has a limited amount of patience. Men are not at all ready to immediately perceive your entire flow of problems and life complexities. Find ways to lower the steam, accumulated due to unfulfilled ambitions or conflicts with others, on the side. Go to gatherings with friends, talk in forums, visit the gym. Just do not throw out the entire supply of negative emotions to your spouse. At first he can sympathize with you, but in time he can escape to a more cheerful and simply a person who perceives life.
Avoid criticism
Criticism in general is not a very useful tool for communication. It should be dosed and very carefully. As for criticism of a man, then you, of course, walk on the edge of the abyss every time you try to re-educate or improve it. Wise women know that an adult can not be altered. So if something does not suit you in a man, you should either take it in and take it easy, or, if this is an intolerable quality for you, think about changing your partner at an early stage of the relationship.
If you criticize a man all the same you need, then do it carefully and taking into account the psychology of the man. For example, the most motivating to change a critic is one that criticizes a particular act, and not a man as a whole. Do not also compare it with anyone whatsoever. It's better to say: "I was worried yesterday, when you sat drunk behind the wheel" than: "You'll always get drunk and go to the garage, not like Vasya." Better yet, men are not criticized as a "punishment" for misconduct, but lack of praise. If a man is accustomed to receiving from you admiration and constant positive feedback, by the absence of it, he will notice that he has done something wrong, and with a high probability either corrects the oversight, or goes on a frank conversation with you.
In trying to analyze the mistakes that can become fatal for your love and relationships with men, do not look for universal recipes. We, of course, told you about common female mistakes, but remember that there is nothing better than frank dialogue and knowledge of what your man thinks is a mistake, and what does not even pay attention.