We deliberately do not give specific appearances and passwords. Because the first thing you should know about - sooner or later it happens absolutely with everyone. So it makes sense to "set aside panic," take a deep breath and figure out the causes of this phenomenon. To treat without a diagnosis is dangerous stupidity. Any doctor will tell you.
Where, where did you retire?
The most common problem of marriage (reducing sexual desire) is a direct consequence of the most common misconception of spouses - the perception of marriage as the ultimate goal. But after all, with the "stamp in the passport", in fact everything is just beginning! Marriage, if you understand, it's not a goal at all, it's a process. And the process is dynamic and unstable. Any marriage is experiencing its downs and its ups, the theory of "relationship crises" is not devoid of meaning. Inhabited in one territory, every "prince" or "princess" sooner or later, with horror, learns that the love of his life is a living organism, with his needs, peculiarities and other "cockroaches". You do not make love with her husband? I don `t want? This is bad. Hence, we will return!
In a healthy body
Doctors distinguish 3 basic physiological factors responsible for the loss of sexual desire: hormonal, symptomatic and psychophysiological. Not only isolated, but also proved by empirical means: all this mundane history is the main factor in the loss of libido. This is physics instead of lyrics.
Play, the hormone!
There are several types of hormones that somehow affect the level of libido. First of all, it is the luteinizing hormone (LH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) - substances originating from the pituitary gland, responsible for the actual production of female and male sex hormones: progesterone and testosterone. By the way, in men these hormones are divided constantly on one, and in women - cyclically, increasing the dose during ovulation and during the menstrual cycle. They are responsible for sex and in the production of these substances, it is to blame for the lack of desire. Understand, put in order with your hormonal background, it is possible with the help of a blood test from a vein, which can be taken in any clinic early in the morning, on an empty stomach. Both female and male hormones are produced in the body of both sexes. All the difference is in their number. If the balance is violated, the libido falls. Fortunately, modern medicine hormonal imbalance treats "for one or two": after drinking a course of hormonal drugs, you will be in perfect order.
Links of one chain
There is a whole list of diseases that reduce (and sometimes even level) sexual desire. Among them: obstructive pulmonary disease, bronchial asthma, coronary heart disease, arterial hypertension, renal failure, gastric ulcer, arthritis, diabetes mellitus, cirrhosis, prostatitis and prostate adenoma. It's simple: having cured the cause, you will get rid of the investigation.
Sadness, melancholy is consuming me
Among the most important psychophysiological reasons for reducing libido - stresses, and their extremely dangerous consequence, the peculiar "Plague of the XXI century" is depression. Regardless of what triggered this disease, the consequence of a depressed state is always the absence of sexual desire and even a violation of potency. How to distinguish depression from a bad mood? There is nothing easier! The depressive state oppresses not only the emotional and intellectual component. Depression is a real disease. And, like any disease, it sensibly "beats" on the basic physiological processes. With depression you can not (or just really, really do not want to!) Sleep, eat, have sex, work, make decisions, think, move. Together with the desire, the forces necessary for life quickly disappear. In addition, psychiatrists who diagnose depression use such a trick as determining the mood depending on the solar activity: if simple melancholy and boredom are more often piled in the evenings and at night, then the "time" for depression is morning. Medical statistics show that 80% of patients who received adequate professional help have recovered completely from depression. If self-medication and methods of "traditional medicine" do not give stable positive results - draw conclusions about the severity of your disease. And immediately consult a doctor.
Diseases of society
The reason for reducing libido is often an overabundance of information. Sooner or later, partners begin to compare each other with, so to speak, missed options. And often in favor of the latter. And no one realizes that other people are, by and large, attractive because they are different. The search for "good from good", by the way, is a dead-end branch of the evolution of relations with the surrounding world. It is complicated by the inevitable gradual decrease in libido. And at the end of this path you will be lonely.
Come back, I will forgive everything!
Universal recipes "How do you want your husband again?" does not exist. Each case is unique - after all, each pair has its own characteristics. There are only a few general recommendations. As in any serious project, in the return to the world of "big sex" is important phase. Remember that you start here and it's habitual - with yourself. Set a reasonable daily routine. Try to bring your lifestyle closer to "healthy": exercise, full sleep, proper nutrition - all this is extremely important. Do not overeat at night! Love for a full stomach, even if it happened, is a dubious pleasure. Limit alcohol consumption. Reasonable use of phytotherapy has not harmed anyone. For women, recommend a vysilistnik, for men dubrovnik. Brew, like tea, and drink. Do not force yourself to have sex. Let your intimate life fit into the banal formula "once a week." The main thing is that you will have it. Do not forget about the partner - become the initiator of spontaneous actions. If the lack of sex is not a consequence of an elementary lack of love, he will necessarily "tighten up" and make an effort to reanimate an intimate life. Well, if you do not make love because you do not have anything to do ... There's only one piece of advice here: do not be afraid of change. Life without desires and events is deprived of meaning.