How to behave if a girlfriend meets with your ex and choose the right line of conduct? It's really very hard, the situation is too emotional. After all, apart from the fact that you lost the guy, you feel a deep pain of betrayal on the part of a friend. Almost in all cases (with rare exception) in such situations, friendship comes to an end. And rightly so. Who among us does not feel resentment when our friends look into those secluded corners of our personal lives, where outsiders are not allowed to enter and investigate them?
Even after many years, already forgetting about past attachments and redesigning their lives in a new way, many can not accept if their friends begin to meet with former guys. Very often we live the illusion that we are still dear to our former, we are something special in their life, deserve a special place. And the world of your relationship with him, hidden from prying eyes (albeit already past, but no less valuable) opens to your friend., Which meets your ex. It is reasonable to assume that such a situation excludes the possibility of continuing friendship. You can stay with friends. However, there can be no talk of trust. Many girls start to torment themselves with questions like "does he tell her the same tenderness as me?", "Does he love her more than he loved me?". A special fear is that the former can tell the undesirable details of those times when you were together, and this is quite understandable.
And how often it happened that in conversations with a friend you discussed a young man, she gave you advice, was aware of all that was happening. One girl told a sad story about how her friend listened and gave her advice on difficult situations in life with a guy, often badly spoke about him and portrayed himself as his fierce haters. However, as soon as the relationship ceased, the girlfriend radically changed her opinion about this young man and herself became the girl's former boyfriend. The affected girl did not begin to roll up stormy hysterics, however, she certainly remained an unpleasant sludge, and she speaks with great doubt about female friendship. Past friendship, trust and complete openness have now become the last day, and what has happened is nothing more than treachery. Agree, in this emotsionalnoy situation it is difficult to behave unequivocally, if a friend meets with your ex-suitor.
However, it is not worth it to suffer and bite your elbows, a morally depressed or hysterical state helped no one to get out of difficult situations. It is best to take up the construction of new relationships, draw a line under the old grievances, attachments, doubts. Some female representatives manage to calm down and pull themselves together, they begin to build new relationships, forgetting both about the former and about the girlfriend, without going into the details of their new relationship. And it is right. After all, your relationship has already ended, you have become a part of the past for each other, and life continues. Long past days and those feelings that you had to each other then, and remain in the past, and you already do not change anything in what happened. After all, it may well be that your girlfriend will meet with your ex, and they have a really good pair, and your relationship with him was a mistake.
Do not be afraid to admit this and find the strength to look for what really suits you, without interfering in the personal life of people you know. To survive these problems means to return to the past, to live with old emotions, to fill your life with something already dead, do not engage in self-pity and think what all the mean ones are. Take yourself in hand and go further, because whatever it is, life does not end there, and this is only a new stage in it. And maybe what happens to you, it's only for the best.
Getting rid of old attachments, you are liberating a place for a new life, and from now on you will understand that anything is possible. Trying to revenge or somehow spoil someone's relationship - it's just wasting your time wasted on the lives of others. This behavior can be a great story for films, but in reality it is only domestic folly and narrow-mindedness.
Now you know how to behave if a girlfriend meets your ex. A good example is history, when a lady friend, not only could find the strength to survive this incident with dignity, but also without malice and hatred, just tuned in to organize her life. I found myself a really suitable man, began to build strong relationships with him, and feeling happy and not worrying about what happened in the past, remained in friendly relations with both her girlfriend and the former. Of course, the former friendship and relationship is no more, as there is also no meaningless self-frustration and hatred. Learn to understand the lessons of fate and not to despair, with dignity transferring them, even if a friend meets a person who was previously indifferent to you, and then everything will be successful.