"Girl O'Key"
Sometimes I want to ask myself why are the so-called "O'Kay girls" still crying, who, despite all life's difficulties, do not erase from their faces a radiant smile? This can lead to a full-fledgedness. It can not be this? But no, everything happens just like this. And what is the reason behind all if the person is always in a good mood and never complains of anything? Usually, such people radiate a full positive and embrace everyone with great enthusiasm. You need advice - you always get it, you need all the help - you will never be refused, you have to speak out, you will always be listened to and so on. In a word, such a person can not cry, because he's always in order. But in fact here everything is much more complicated than it might seem at first glance: the distinctive feature of the "girl O'Key" is her ability to make a good face even in a bad game.
Where do tears come from?
We all know that any game, even the most positive, has chances to play. That's it for this very reason, the permanent demonstration of their thirty-two teeth at all three hundred and sixty degrees should not be the reason that you can forget about the ordinary feeling of the measure. Failing this feeling, the consequences will not take long to wait.
And the consequences can be different:
Self-deception
The thing is that even if you spend a day at least a few hours for all sorts of ancient mantras like: "I am the best", "I am the most adventurous," "there is no one more beautiful or happier than me", "Today I'm increasing", "Sashka finally "and" the pusher is nothing but a mirror defect "and as a result" I have everything okay, "then this you will not become slimmer, the salary will remain small, all mirrors of the world will remain defective and t . There are a lot of things in the world, to which, to great regret, auto-training can not be affected for objective reasons, and this should always be remembered.
And putting on a mask a-la "I'm in full chocolate," we somehow or other pretend that we are not at all an objective objective reality. This leads to a complete imbalance of the internal and external. And this, first of all, is a direct route to nervous breakdowns and nerves. And this is not funny at all, it's a disease.
Cheating others
This is exactly what was discussed at the beginning of our article. Of course, you will calm and iron on the head of such a person, but with this one you will not experience a small cultural shock. If you never remove the mask of absolute happiness, then, when wolves come running, no one will believe you, and all for the reason that your family and friends simply can not feel their coming to you specifically. Here is the conclusion that your tears are considered faked, atoms and even worse - "from idleness by needlework." In other words, many may think that so much noise is raised due to the fact that you just became bored!
Avoiding Reality
To the great regret, thanks to the Hollywood smile alone you will not be able to settle in your soul peace and peace, and emptiness has filled the very edges. Having put on the mask of the plan "I managed to win everyone" you can not solve problems at all, and as if a frightened ostrich, hide your head.
Non-acceptance of others
At one perfect moment, with an external smile, you will develop an amanthropy: "What are still the callous and unfeeling people, is it not visible to them, how really I feel bad? Yes, I'm dying here at all, but they do not care! Smiling, as if nothing had happened! I just hate them all! "Of course, they do not notice. And why should they do it?
Rejection by Others
In the world there is a saying: "If you want people to love you, do not tell them about your happiness!". No matter how sad it may sound, there is a truth in this proverb. And the truth of this approximately ninetieth, based on our modest estimates. According to our mentality, we love the unfortunate and do not trust the problem-free.
And this all happens at the genetic level. Of course, this is not a law, but it has the right to exist.
Very addictive
You know that you are called a "walking tranquilizer," and if you multiply it by a hypertrophied sense of responsibility, you can not deceive the expectations of others who come to you in order to draw optimism from you. And even if your optimism has long since exhausted itself, you are still continuing to produce a happy attitude to everything, since it can not simply be another. Here you have a vicious circle, which in time begins to cause a feeling of irritation and not let your optimism act like a phoenix bird.
What can the heart be able to calm down?
Of course, you should not get upset, because in our life, besides black and white, there are a lot of different colors, therefore, no matter how we tarnish the insincerity of the habit, "I'm always fine," you do not need to consider it from the side. This behavior has its pluses:
A portion of self-control has never been harmed by anyone
In the end, the main reason for your current negative mood may not be an objective global tragedy (for example, hail), but something less global and terrible. It could be some kind of little trouble. Well, for example, the socks of your chosen one, scattered since Monday all over the apartment. This is far from hail, but still, you will agree, without a steady habit of "this trouble we will be able to survive", and in such a hard time it will be extremely difficult to kill your faithful to death.
The presence of the presence of the conscience has never harmed anyone.
Let's think for a couple of minutes about the people around us. Imtak is hard, and they also have problems, and some have such a level that it's better to immediately put your head in a loop! Let's try to understand and feel sorry for them. And we will not overload our misfortunes on our shoulders. In addition, most of them you just are completely a stranger.
Forgive me, but now I will utter banality.
All thoughts are material and this is a fact. And they are material in terms of space. You are firmly confident that you have everything (there is now and will be in the future) perfectly - and it somehow settles on its own. Let, of course, and not immediately.
Do you go with an acidic face? Expect trouble! Not one of the best and most sensible choices to load ourselves in our harsh reality is still a bit of a pandemic to all the psychological sores.
Forgiven the ordinary reality? Then - the banality is terrible:
A person who smiles is much more attractive. And even one can safely say that it is more beautiful. Agree, especially the equation of such a man is much prettier than his visual opponent is constantly bitten to the blood because of life's injustice with his lips. And a serious (this is not to mention inflated) facial expressions always appear premature wrinkles, absolutely us with you neither necessary.
Therefore, it is not harmful to smile at all, not for health, not for appearance. So smile, just because you are beautiful!