Do not Try to Like
The first time you get acquainted with your child's child, you should not try to please him. You can not love a person at the first moment, whether he is an adult or a child. Therefore, excessive ostentatious love will be insincere. And children wonderfully feel a lie. Therefore, in no case do not start immediately hugging him, squeezing, telling how you love him. Let the little man get used to himself. Try to talk to him, something to play. But if the baby does not come into contact, do not force him. Ine, let the daddy scold the child for unfriendly behavior, this only causes anger in the child. Just try to behave as you would with an adult: affably, politely and unobtrusively. Must pass time, maybe a week, and maybe a couple of months, before the child will get used to you and begin to show interest as a relative. There are kids who come to contact immediately, but the older the son or daughter of your muzhchina, the more time it will take him to look at you, appreciate and decide that you can be friends with you. If the child lives with his father, then it will take less time. Avot in the case when he has a mother, be prepared for what he will vassravnivat. And you must remember that you are an adult and you do not have to compete with anyone. Just behave naturally and treat the baby with the love that you feel. Over time, he will always respond to it.
Bugetotovs to difficulties
Remember that children are not ideal. They will drop, shout, do not obey. And you, as an adult, should be strict, but fair. Therefore, no matter how angry you are, never exceed your authority. You should always try to talk and explain. Remember that, no matter what bad mood you do not come to the baby, never anger on him. You must be able to control yourself. Yes, the child does not listen, but this does not mean that you need to yell at him and beat him. If children constantly explain everything, conflicts can be reduced to a minimum, although they will be vseravno. Try to restrain yourself and do not despair. Even if the baby screams that he does not love you, you do not need to take it personally. Children always do not like adults at the moment when they are scolded or forbidden. Remember that in an hour he will love you. And if you give a slave, then you will only achieve that the kid either will be afraid of you, or use your kindness. Always choose in your behavior a golden middle. Read psychology, communicate with those who already have children. Thus, you will be able to pick up a lot of useful information and will know how to act in this or that case.
Gifts
If you go to a house where there is a child, you must have some small gift. But in any case, do not bend the stick. Do not try to buy a baby. If you constantly throw it with gifts, then it will begin to be used and taken for granted. But only if you come with empty hands, immediately his real attitude will manifest. Remember that it is impossible to buy children's love. Children love "for a reason", and gifts are just a pleasant bonus for them. If you see that the baby starts to insist on asking, then for a while, stop giving him something. Let him be annoyed, poobivaetsya, and then understand that the gifts need to be able to properly thank. By the way, if a child really loves you, then this is enough for five minutes. Otherwise, you need to reconsider your tactics of relationship with the baby and change something. First of all, you must be an aunt, not an aunt, whom he loves for gifts. Choosing a child a gift, first of all, remember that he loves, and do not focus on our tastes. You should realize that the baby is already an individual, and you have no right to impose your own desires on him. Your gifts should go from the heart and really bring him joy. Believe me, the best thing for him is the chocolate he loves, rather than trying to buy off something, apot to wonder why the baby does not show you love.
Show interest to his life
In order for the child to love you, you must show that he and his life are interesting to you. Remember that if you want to be this pope, then you must take an active part in its development. You should listen to what he tells you and maintain dialogue with him, to play games, to deal with him. And fatigue - this is not an excuse to dismiss the answer. No normal mother will not afford this, and you, in part, play this role in the life of this child. Therefore, you must give him time when you come to his boyfriend's house. Children love those to whom they are. If you read books to him, teach him verses, help solve problems, and so on, over time he will always try to tell you how much he loves you.
Neskandalte with a guy with a child
And the last thing to be said about is your relationship with a man. Whatever happens, whether your guy is right or not, never make a scandal in front of the child. Especially at first. As much as he did not like you, but Dad is Dad and he always rushes to protect his name. Especially if it is at the age when it is still difficult to understand and analyze the situation. In his eyes, you will simply look like one who is responsible for the very one person, and hence the enemy. Therefore, always try to stay or go to neutral territory, where the baby can not hear your scandal. When he grows up and gets used to you, then in case of your rightfulness it may well be on your side. But if he sees this in the first months, then his confidence in you will be greatly shaken. And it is on trust that each person's love will be built.
If you follow all the rules described above, then after a certain period of time your kid's boyfriend will throw himself at you, only when he sees on the threshold, hug, kiss on the cheek and say: "I love you." And you will feel the happiest person in the world.