This is a painful feeling, which, according to Françoise Sagan, "always alienates from other people." Many of us are worse than sad, for example, to aggression. Be aggressive in a sense "more honorable" than be sad, - remember Harlequin and Pierrot. Sadness is often associated with impotence, weakness, is not approved by modern society and, it seems, prevents you from being successful, in demand, and happy. When we are sad, we want privacy and silence, it's difficult for us to communicate. Sadness sets a special course for thoughts and, as Benedikt Spinoza observed in the 17th century, "weakens our ability to act." At such moments, active life stops, before us it seems as though the curtain is being lowered and the presentation is no longer shown. And there is nothing left but to turn to yourself - to begin to reflect. From the side the person seems ill, and he is advised to do something urgently. But is it necessary to hurry back to the vanity of life? Sadness is the most intelligent feeling, and we invite you to read our article.
"It's sad that my relationship with a good person has deteriorated"; "It's sad that the best go first" ... If we are sad, then something good has disappeared from our life or has not appeared in it. We may not yet know what it is, but thanks to sadness, we ask ourselves this question: what do we lack for completeness of existence, for happiness? We listen to ourselves, pay attention to our relations with the world. Sometimes this feeling is mixed with resentment, discontent, anger is a cocktail of "terrible mood". But often we drink a pure drink of sadness, which can only spoil the consciousness of its wrongness - then its taste becomes heavy, astringent, bitter. In sorrow without guilt, a beautiful bouquet of a bitter-brackish stream is felt ... combined with sweetness. The way it is. How many beautiful poems are written in this state and what music! But sometimes life happens, it is cruel and takes away from us the dear, the most precious ... We can close and stop feeling so as not to accidentally forget about what we lost, because it is unbearably painful. And then we will choose the road of depression. And we can open the heart and live our loss - the whole whole, to the drop: and self-pity, and resentment of the abandoned and abandoned creature, and loneliness, because in sorrow no one can help. This is not an easy way to heal. It is necessary to make a decision, our own, deeply personal, in order to humbly go all the way. This requires patience, as well as the freedom to allow yourself to cry, to wash and clean the wound. In addition, we will have to part with a sense of guilt: when, having forgiven ourselves, we will be able to cry, we will feel that the wounded soul is wrapped up in a warm blanket - it still hurts, but ... is warm.
To grieve, it is necessary to mourn sadly, carefully, gently. A crying soul should be lulled by someone - why not do it for your own soul? Brew tea, take cover with a rug and grieve as much as her soul likes. And it's amazing how soon everything changes from such a host to himself. Now with a smile, it turns out, remember your loss. You can already talk about it, watch photos. Relationships become more perfect, because of them all is superficial. Now you can not just remember, but to conduct a dialogue, feel the support of the one who left the pass. And this profound wisdom awakens such a strong desire to live, that all resentments to life melt. It turns out that she can not and does not want to take away anything that we dared to love. All the beloved is forever with us. "
And if it is depression?
Lack of desires, a sense of inner emptiness and own uselessness, severe fatigue, insomnia, suicidal thoughts ... Often, degression arises as a reaction to a very bad life for a long time or as an emotional response to the greatest pain with which a person can not cope. And yet the main condition for depression is to abandon yourself and not allow yourself to be sad about what is happening. Today, more and more Europeans refuse to take antidepressants, so as not to deafen depression, but how to hear her questions. Do I like my life? Why do I endure such a bad attitude for so long? Why live if I lost those I loved? The ability to experience sadness, despair, self-doubt really means that we are living people. Contrary to everything.