Meanwhile, the traditional wedding tamade was replaced by wedding organizers, who promise unforgettable celebrations "on a turn-key basis". Even such an intimate moment as a proposal is planned. The man at the same time must decisively say that he will not pull the ring (parachute) until his darling answers "yes." On the request "how to make an offer to a man", the search engine also issues a couple of pages of links. But there is a significant difference. Women are described not so much entourage in which to make a proposal, how many actions that they must take to encourage the chosen one to utter coveted words. The marriage proposal, first of all, remains a woman's dream? The tradition of offering hands and hearts was founded a long time ago ...
Who dreams of what?
A modern woman is preoccupied with finding a potential husband much less than we want to convince magazines and movies. She is economically independent, her position in society is much more influenced by her education, work, experience, personal qualities, rather than for whom she is married. And yet in every girl there is not always a conscious idea that she becomes a real woman only from the moment when a man asks her to belong to him.
Prince from childhood
However, the women who received the offer of the hand and heart, at heart, are disappointed with how it was done. Perhaps the fact is that our memory stores a picture from a favorite children's book: a beautiful princess and a prince on a white horse - and for less this children's memory does not agree. To the beloved could be in a fairy tale, to be a princess, and we need unusual scenarios: a proposal made on a balloon, a ring in a glass of champagne, a rain of roses ...
Castle from the castle
Today, the dream of a wedding with a prince - like Cinderella or the Sleeping Beauty - may seem naive, or even suggest the immaturity of the dreamer. Massmedia create a glamorous myth about how a successful life looks. The former cultural norm operated on the notions of valor and nobility, power, knowledge, power. Now they talk about success in life in terms of wealth, secular success, relevance, fashion. Who has not developed his own guidelines - tends to correspond to the general idea of "as expected", guided by the desire to be "no worse than others." Well, fairy tales were also composed at the time when marriages were mostly in accordance with the custom and arguments of reason and connected more than two patrimonial estates, than two souls. But some still chose love! When the prince takes away the beauty on the notorious horse, he does not ask for anything either his parents or the parents of the bride, the beauty also listens only to the voice of her heart. They are aimed at bringing the relationship of two to the level of the ideal. They say that marriages are made in heaven, which means that a new dimension is emerging in the couple, they become something more than just a relationship at the "man-man" level. All these ribbons, a doll on a bumper or a lock that hangs on a bridge, can seem ridiculous. But with their help, men and women are trying to create this new dimension, to testify: how this castle is fastened, so is our relationship cemented. However, all this works only if lived at a deep level, accompanied by the work of the soul. If this is an imitation, a game in which there is nothing but a form, there will be no use.
Cabinet, champagne, fachitos
"He is on one knee ... a box ... a ring ... I was terribly frightened ... Yes! Of course, yes! How nice to remember the day of our engagement! I will tell this story to my daughters when they grow up. Suddenly beautiful ... and right! "Seeing a man literally at her feet, a woman feels her strength especially deeply. This once again convinces her of her own worth and importance. But it's nice for men to feel like knights.
"Only you"
The offer of the hand and the heart has several significant differences from the subsequent wedding rite. First, this moment is only for two. Even if the proposal is made among the congestion of the people - from the stage of the theater or using a billboard in the center of the city. Secondly, this amazing moment usually captures only memory. It's hard to find a person who would have a photo in the family album: "Look, granddaughter, here I am making an offer to your grandmother ..." And thirdly, the offer is a moment of determination and, at the same time, fear even of those who are confident in positive answer. My heart freezes, because she can refuse at the last minute. But if the answer is positive, then this is an experience of mutual joy, trust in the future and such openness and readiness for happiness ... which, perhaps, is, the very happiness of the purest test.