Two meet, enjoy each other, but after marriage can come chilling, irritation and, as a result, a break. Why is this happening?
For many people, the idea of an ideal family is based on fatal and erroneous views, and therefore, expecting from eternal marriage, they receive only a fall!
Many, when entering into marriage, do not understand that family relations are a painstaking work day in and day out and that one love can not go far. Before marrying, it will not be superfluous to think about what unites you besides love, whether you have common interests and views on life. The fact that opposites are attracted is an erroneous opinion, because all this works only at the first stage of the relationship, as long as you study each other and your unlikeness introduces unusualness into your relationships. Over time, this will only interfere, because it will be more difficult for you to find common points of contact. Do not rely on the fact that a person next to you will change his hobbies or lifestyle - it's impossible to remake anyone. It's hard to imagine that a housewife woman will go to night clubs only because her husband is used to living a similar way of life (or vice versa). Most likely, such a marriage will disintegrate after a while.
And here even sex will not save! Marriage is based not only on physiology, but also on the relationship of souls, and therefore good sex is not a panacea in marriage, but only a pleasant and necessary addition.
Do not forget about the material side of family relations. Love is love, but life in a hut is unlikely to become a unifying factor and whatever one may say, a stable financial situation for the family is not at all important.
So it turns out that true love before marriage should be valued, and in marriage work on it, improve and learn to build relationships. And if we talk about true love after marriage, then the main thing is to keep friendly relations: to love the way you used to be each other, but at least keep all the good things that you managed to get during the marriage. This priceless experience you would not get anywhere, so be grateful for this to your former half!
Do not look for true love after an official marriage in the one with whom you broke up, try to keep friendship and trust. Who knows, maybe, in the person of the former spouse, you will get a reliable friend! Treat the event as a next step, after which you will overcome not only experience, but also an opportunity to move forward, towards your happiness. And with a load of mutual reproaches it will be much more difficult.
And remember: the main thing is not whether this is true love or not, before and after or during an official marriage - the main thing is that next to you were there is a close person next to whom you wanted (or want to) be all your life! Appreciate what you have, build your relationships, and do not rely on the course of fate and then the question of whether there is real love before and after an official marriage and how to keep it married will be rhetorical for you! After all, no matter how many questions you ask, the answer will be one - love and be loved! If you love your chosen one, you will not be able to hurt this person and therefore will try to build your relationships, listening to the opinion of your spouse, and this is so important in the family. Only trying to understand each other you can come to a compromise.
Love has its own laws and its own rules! And she cruelly punishes the lazy, so do not forget that life is not a routine that destroys feelings, but only a way to get to know each other and immerse in the world of a loved one, having dissolved into it and becoming a particle of it !!!